Does anyone out there believe in love anymore?
I mean, I am a caring man who asks this. When I meet someone they usually can’t fathom a relationship. Case in point, my ex doesn’t want a boyfriend anymore. most girls I talk to don’t want commitment. Am I extinct ? I’m not a bad looking guy and I have a big heart. can someone help me with this ?
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I did at one point. Then all the sudden I woke up and didn’t even want to see my bf anymore. I think love is just a sham…course, I’m a giant commitaphobe.
Its a modern time, people are being “independent” stick around long enough, I’m sure you can get them. =]
I have fantasies about finding a man who is actually nice, and being in a romance, but because I have a baby with a man who hurts me, I’ve become convinced that love is not for me, and that I am destined to look jealously at happy couples for the rest of my life… unless I gain the courage to RUN!!! Oh… what did you need help with?
yeah I guess I could say I’ve been that way before I think what I need help with is getting over it and moving on. When I talk to her she is so cold and distant. It’s like I didn’t mean anything to her at all. But I know I did. for a long time too. I’m a musician so I guess I’m a little more sensitive than some , but, I really can’t express myself right. If that makes any sense at all>
i know how you feel man. i feel like im a hopeless romantic most of the time and it seems its not really wanted anymore. its like sorry but you should have been born in another time… but i did find one thing. when i gave up my drug lifestyle i started to go to church functions with my family. alot of the women there seem to want a commitment and want to start a family. my friend just got married after meeting his wife at a church singles group. maybe you can try that…
everyone’s different. some people commit some don’t. it’s about finding compatibility. so you didn’t this time - dosn’t mean the world has changed.
thanks these thinge make alot of sense. I don’t do drugs. I have aloy of problems with the same old stories, job,home,money. I guess I just need to talk to some people like y’all.
that’s cool. Why not get into something, like a club, or someone else started going on about church - not my thing - but getting into any social scene based on an interest is always good coz you get to spend time with people who have something in common with you. if it leads to you meeting someone then a common interest is a good start. if not, you are spending your life doing somthing you enjoy. everybody wins!
a lot of people have a big heart until it’s broken.
wow, what a concept. Sometimes it’s difficult to change because you like the same comfortable norm. The only way to do it is to do it. Right ?
also, keep up the music. times like this inspires beautiful music and it also helps other people when they listen to it. it lets people know that there not alone =) some of the best stuff ive ever writting came from very sad times.
David: don’t give up on love. There are some out there with broken hearts who are afraid to love now because someone hurt them but that doesn’t mean all prospective partners will hurt you, it’s not true. You will find someone out there who will see life through your eyes and want what you want. I promise.
Just what I think I needed to hear Malia ,thank you. I*t just seems like it will never end.
David: Keep the faith, even with my trials and tribulations I believe there is someone who will love me as me….I know there is someone for you. I will wait for the day you write me to tell me her name.
I guess you have to go thru hell to get to heaven sometimes. Hey if you want to hear some good original music check out reverbnation.com/davoy2k . It spans some time and there are only ten out of 70 songs I have , but, being introverted like I am I don’t advertise myself enough i guess.
I’ll go look at it David, thank you.
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i think love is when someone makes you feel like you can do anything you want and even make a mistake and still they love you never makeing you feel less but makeing you feel more like you are perfect and helps keep you from changing for other people because you are perfect when you come in to this world but we change for some many things but not for are selves we would be much happer if people would let us be how we are so we need to find that one person how dose let us be are selves but we put so much peresher on people for that sometimes we forget to let the other person be how they are aswell for only then well we truly be in love and truly happy with not only them but are selves aswell
i wonder the same thing… i feel so alone sometimes because im such a diehard romantic… but im convinced there is somewhere not where i am but somewhere out there theres somebody like you and me who still has the capacity for the love that lasts through any storm
Dave, I hate to break it to you but in my opinion it’s rare people find a relationship where unconditional and lasting love goes both ways. As pathetic as it may be (only admitting this as I don’t really care if strangers will judge me) I have just come out of dating a guy for two years who is such a commitaphobe or simply didn’t want me as much as I wanted him perhaps. Even though he had keys to my house, we met each other’s parents, did the whole holidays thing, meeting the friends etc (you get my drift) he never once told me he loved me or made an effort to take things forward. I shyed away from confronting him as thought this might push him away, when I actually asked him on three seperate occassions where we were heading he simply made out that he was under the impression we were having fun=/ since ending things with him as we were clearly on different pages he’s been all over me like a rash promising to take us more seriously and promising me a future (which I know is crap).
Long story short, in my experience men don’t want a good woman they just want a conquest/challenge. I’ve never understood why it takes someone walking out of a relationship for the other part to appreciate them. I know I’m an enabler as I love giving when in a relationship (I’m my own buggest enemy really as I always put boyfriends before myself) but this time round I’ve fallen to far and to answer your question…NO…love does not exist and I’ve resigned to spending the rest of my life devoting myself to my career and charity!
yes i do its a feeling you cant explain but you will know when it comes every one has a soulmate Its this feeling you get in your heart you look at that person and take a deep breath and say i will do anyhing for that person i will take the good and the bad times . love is in the air.
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