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Hello,

well im in a situation and really need to get out of it. recently i have got to know a part of my family who i never was in much contact with. know that i have them in my life, ive realised the reason why my mum wanted to protect me from them. they are all christian people, and veryyy judgemental…specially if i’m not the girl who they want me to be. i thought it was great to have them back in my life, i was started a new life again, met new friends and started at a new church. although they continued to talk about my mum..in a nasty way saying how much i would have been better off livin with them. i told them to back of as she was my mum and i love her no matter what faults weve had. they never did, every chance they had they brought her up, they talked about my dad and backed him up…even though i only see him once or twice a year. so anyway, i met this guy and weve been together for a while now, but guess what - my so called family dont approve..just cause he isnt a christian like them. they dont know him yet say i deserve better. they also talk about my best friend (the only one i trust), they dont like her either…but again they havent even met her or spoke to her. thing is i know that everyone i met will never be good enough for them, and im sick of it. i want them outta my life for good and ive no idea how to do that. how can i tell them how i feel…? ive tried before and hey - im the bad guy. i can block them off facebook, msn, hey-even change my number, but i dont think that’ll work… i need ideas here… Just because they happen to share my blood - it doesnt make them my family.

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IrAdler offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (22 minutes after post)

Are they living with you now or very close that you have to meet them so often? You said they just “popped” up all of a sudden in your life. If they don’t live close by, don’t worry. They will fade away just as quickly as they came. Other than that, it is really up to you how much do you allow yourself to be bothered by some people they were never there as you grew up. You can always tell them if they are that religious they have to know acceptance and forgiveness. Jesus didn’t discriminate when he invited people from all walks of life to his table. Tell them if they can’t tell you nice things or positive things, they may as well shut up.

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