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You don’t; guilt sucks. But there are still people and things in the world that matter. The way I see it, life is a game of trade and decisions. It’s heavy on rationality and rarely easy, but it does go on, and getting over guilt is a paradox. Guilt is absolution and penetance. There’s always going to be something else to regret, but hopefully there’s always going to be something to be proud of to ease the feeling just a little bit.

Reconcile with whoever you’ve hurt, then forgive yourself.

I’ve found it’s impossible to just get over something as penetrating as guilt. You have to either get rid of it or make up for it. Do something positive of at least equal value as the first act was negative, or find some way to be forgiven for it. (Forgiveness works wonders.) Of course, when it comes down to it feeling okay about your life after the fact is still up to you.

I have reconciled with the person I hurt, and she had forgiven me. But I know the pain I put her through. The fact that she has forgiven me actually makes it worse because now I know how good a person she is and I hurt someone that good.

I really wish she hated me, I think that would make it easier.

The best way to truly feel free of this burden is to make amends for whatever wrongs you’ve done. Since there’s not much explanation as to the situation which brought on this guilt, that’s the best solution I can offer. If this guilt is coming from you doing wrong, then you have to make it right in the best way you can. If the guilt is coming from something else that’s unfounded, such as you breaking up with someone b/c you’re unhappy, then there’s no reason to feel guilty unless you broke it off in an unjust way. This is just an example. I have no idea what your situation is. Just consider why you feel guilty and get to the root of the problem. Then figure out what you need to do to fix it.