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I believe I suffer from nostalgia more than anyone

else, I am only 25 and my life is good, now is the time I should be making great memories and I am, but it seems I can’t truly appreciate the great times I have until they are gone. Why is it every Fall I reminisce on last Fall, when I should be in the present moment enjoying what beauty is in the world today and not yesterday…. I suppose next year I will appreciate today. Why is it I have a hard time listening to Flaw, the Rza, Bone, Ra, Atom Ship and my other favorite bands, All it does is remind me of yesteryears (that I portray in my mind to be years of perfection but honestly they really weren’t that great).. The top triggers to these nostalgia attacks are the changing of the weather and the coming of the Fall, Music, and God forbid I drive by an X’s neighborhood or town, and I pretty much cant visit Mizzou or my old College anymore. How do I live in the present instead of longing for what was? How normal is this?

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Yeh I do that a lot. I also think about the bad stuff and play the whole “if only” game, or the “if I could go back in time” game in my head.

I think this is pretty normal, but its also not terribly healthy. We tend to remember the things we want to rather than the whole story. Like you said about it really not being that great in reality but being perfect in your head.

It’s like the whole thing where often a person’s greatest love is “the one that got away”. But that’s only because they got away and so there wasn’t any time to know them or the relationship fully. Had they not “gotten away”, one would find that the person and the relationship would have been just as flawed as any other.

We all do it, I know I do. Though I try not to because it often exacerbates my depression and stuff.

Perhaps you could try some basic meditation techniques, or learn a little about zen philosophy. That’s all about living in the moment and not making things something that they’re not in your head (which is something everyone does on a pretty much moment to moment basis, to some degree or another).

Yeh I do that a lot. I also think about the bad stuff and play the whole "if only" game, or the "if I could go back in time" game in my head. I think this is pretty normal, but its also not terribly healthy. We tend to remember the things we want to rather than the whole story. Like you said about it really not being that great in reality but being perfect in your head. It's like the whole thing where often a person's greatest love is "the one that got away". But that's only because they got away and so there wasn't any time to know them or the relationship fully. Had they not "gotten away", one would find that the person and the relationship would have been just as flawed as any other. We all do it, I know I do. Though I try not to because it often exacerbates my depression and stuff. Perhaps you could try some basic meditation techniques, or learn a little about zen philosophy. That's all about living in the moment and not making things something that they're not in your head (which is something everyone does on a pretty much moment to moment basis, to some degree or another).

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