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I am in a terrible love triangle.

I need some advice on how to walk away and end the cycle of hurt. I have been involved with this man for well over a year and believed everything he said to me. He was breaking up with his girlfriend when i met him…or so he said, then she found out about us before he actually told her and flipped out, they had been dating 8 mos at the time. I have no ties on this man, i love him and want him to feel comfortable with his choice so at first i understood when he would go back to her for a week then back to me for a month…then a weekend with her, and 4 months with me. Now their contact has intensified, she just popped up on his doorstep a month ago and all has broken loose between he and I…He has been telling her for the past month that he loves her and wants to be with her and he has told her he wants to marry her. He has denied it to me of course as he is telling me those very same things. I am so hurt and cannot believe the lies and manipulation some people will go through to have their cake and eat it too. I know now what i have to do, i just gotta do it and it’s hard right now cause he is out of the country…do i ignore his calls when he come’s back? or do i take it and act like an adult and just tell him it is over…keep in mind he is a smoooooth talker and i don’t know if i have the stregnth to say no to him… help please!

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black rose (male) offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (1 minute after post)

just tell him its over and then cut all contact so he cannot try and talk you out of it

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mamasam_4 offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (2 minutes after post)

thank you , its easier said then done.

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Wild Rose offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (3 minutes after post)

i’m sorry to say but you are getting what is logical after letting him use you and the other girl …problems and pain.

How come a woman can be like this? Don’t let anybody play with you. When he comes back, pick up that phone and dump him.

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mamasam_4 offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Your completely right, i have thought the same thing myself, when i first found out that he had not broken up with her in the beginning i should have walked away and stupid me ignored the biggest red flag of all!

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Wild Rose offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (30 minutes after post)

we are all weak … it happend and so you can learn from it. Love is …well …love does the most crazy things to people.

But please, now that your eyes are open, just deal with him and finnish it. nobody’s worth playing around with

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barbyman offline Verified User (6 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (39 minutes after post)

Well all I can say is he must be good in Bed…..Now I’m getting jealous.When he comes back invite her over, to your Place and have a Threesome…..Enjoy Enjoy Enjoy.

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mamasam_4 offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (39 minutes after post)

I agree, its just so sad, he was never the person I thought he was, it’s like I was in love with a man who never existed. It helps to vent! Thank you so much.

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mamasam_4 offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (41 minutes after post)

funny baryman, thanks for the laugh but she is older like by 10 years than me…she is almost 50, no thank you.

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