boyfriend help: okay, my boyfriend is forever calling me baby, im sick of this - Help.com

talk to him. that is the only thing you can do.

or accept it for what it is

or leave him.

i had this problem with my gf but it was reverse. she told me i tell her i love her too much. and that i shouldn’t waste a good thing. is that how you feel as well? how long have u two been together?

I would suggest just talking to him and explaining that you know he loves you. but that he doesnt need to remind you of it all the time.

BTW, welcome to help.com

I would highly suggest becoming a verified member.

oh okay thats why you are feeling like he says it too much. i understand now. we have been together a year. i don’t think u can over use it. but being together such a short time is different. u need to talk to him about it.

lava_lov wrote:
how do you become verified? haha sorry.

I think by checking your email. I think they send you an email with a link that you have to click on. but cant remember.

lava_lov wrote:
i like being told that he loves me, but he rights it in a text, more then like 5 times a day, aswell as in the morning and night. i reckon he shouldnt over-use the word coz when it gets said too much, it loses all meaning, and a month.

Tell him exsactly what you just said to me…

Anonymous wrote:
oh okay thats why you are feeling like he says it too much. i understand now. we have been together a year. i don’t think u can over use it. but being together such a short time is different. u need to talk to him about it.

I dis-agree. You can over use it to the point it is just another phrase said out of habit rather than with emotion behind it.

I was one to over use it, then I had a horrible break up. I realized the emotion behind my words wasnt the same. I have hardly said to another since.

lava_lov wrote:
lol thats what i had already said and he got angry and when he went to say it he’d be like “was going to say i love you, but i forgot cant do that” and was being really smart about it.

Sounds a little immature of him. tell him you appreciate the fact he wants to say it all the time, but he needs to hold back sometimes, which will make it more special each time he does actually says it. just an idea

Tell him you feel more respected by him when he calls you by your name. Pet names are fun here and there, however sometimes it does make you feel like a pet or owned. You should be proud to be with each other as equals, not because of title/name… idk

how old are you and how old is he?

littlenick wrote:
If you really liked him, you wouldn’t mind what he called you.

Once again, I disagree. sometimes too much is just that, too much.

lava_lov wrote:
true, hes 20, im 17.

K. Age I believe has a lot to do with it. but also how a person was raised and thier parental situation.

littlenick wrote:
If I had a girl texting me all the time that she loved me, that would annoy me.

When people do that is because they’re insecure, clingy, needy, and need lots of reassurance.

I agree… for almost all of this.

lava_lov wrote:
okay how does age effect it? lol
coz i thought he’d be more mature,
seems like its the other way around with this.
hes been hurt in the past, like cheated on and stuff,
so maybe thats y hes being so sweet all the time coz
he doesnt wanna lose me?

Age has everything to do with everything. You two are young. You are indeed seeing the light better than he. but now that you have explained his past, that is the reasoning behind it. just like littlenick said:

littlenick wrote:
If I had a girl texting me all the time that she loved me, that would annoy me.

When people do that is because they’re insecure, clingy, needy, and need lots of reassurance.

littlenick wrote:
I used to have a girl that used to make me alphabet soup and write it in my soup with the letters!!!

wow

littlenick has it all correct. however you just need to tell him flat out, however gentle you want, that he doesnt need to do this all the time/ and you dont want it all the time.

lava_lov wrote:
alright so tell me something i have to directly say to him?

I would explain to him, that you are really into him, however that when he goes over board like he has been, it kinda makes you lose that feeling. And that is the last thing you want.

Littlenick, what do you think?”

face for sure

by text, it doesnt have to be believable or real.

if he says it and continues it. show him there is a consequence to it, just walk away from him or every other time. If its in text, dont text back.

Think about it this way, you are actually helping him. even if you guys were to break up shortly after doing this (which I dont think will happen), you will have started teaching him that his actions are not good. Thus helping him in future relationships.

anytime

maybe its because he runs out of words to say when he speaks with you
that all he can say is “i love you” or “baby”
but then again girls always try to find something to get annoyed about ALL THE TIME!
ALL THE TIMEEEEEE!! i mean god what else do you women want we are only human
seems like your boyfriend is just trying to be romantic whats wrong with that?
not enough? want more? what else would you want flowers and ****
but you should tell him that this isn’t an epic romance just a lesson to prepare
for the future you will break up when i don’t know

It is a good idea to tell him but break it easy it may be to that thats just how he honestly feels and he likes to say to you I had a very simular isue my b.f and I have been together for two years now and in the begining and still to this day he says it like 15 times a day and he calls me a hunny bunny bee right? hes just like that and not because of past issues wich he did have one or two anyways he said he loved me one week in dating and I really didn’t want to say it back but what can you do right? so I did.It did bug me in the beginning I thought the word would lose its meaning too but,really it never has and 2 years 15 times a day later It still has the same love and emotional value to it it never did lose meaning.However if this is really something you can’t get used to maybe you should talk to him and try to make him understand and i would do it face to face.One other thing maybe its not only his fear of loosing you maybe its something to do with your emotions as well I mean many girls I know would give anything to hear it said as many times as possible like it makes them feel better maybe its cause you’ve bean hurt after someone said that to you in the past and thats really the reason it gets so on your nerves and drives you nuts.Anyways Good Luck what ever you chose I’m shure it can only be right.If you follow what your heart says you reach the silver rainbow in the end.See ya gal:)