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did it help to write that lot down? sounds like your head has been spinning a bit if it held all that in it
your troubles are your troubles - you don’t have to compare yourself to other people… if you are troubled its always ok to admit it and ask for help
just a little ask from me… please don’t do number 3 again… there is so much you will discover in life which will transcend the day to day that doesn’t neccessarily need to involve travelling somewhere exotic or doing something extra ordinairy… just open your eyes and look at the world… trust me, its how you look not what you look at.
you want to feel? you have to allow yourself to feel… open your mind to the possibilities of what life has to offer… and you don’t have to force it… life is what happens when you are busy doing something else.
take a listen to this, and I dare you not to smile… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dYSSPp…

Thank you so much for taking the time to help me :)

no worries :o) did you try the link?… if you did what did you think? gave me goosebumps first time I heard it :o)

I did try the link, it’s something I never understood when I was young (when it first came out), and a friend linked it a while back, and I thought ‘cool’. But right now… It really made a difference to how I’m feeling. Thank you again :)

youre very welcome… makes me feel good to hear that i heped in some small way :o)

As my kids would say, OMG! Thank you for saying, all the things I had to say, only much more appropriately. I decided some time ago to try to drive the negative thoughts away and most times it works.
I am a forever after kind of girl, so I never dreamed that I would be alone at this point in my life. I totally get the out of my league thing, and the high expectations/standards, not only in men but in myself too. It makes things so hard. I am not saying that I will ever change. However being this way narrows the field quite a bit.
Dwelling on things makes me crazy too. There is no way to just “not think” about the events that led to my being by myself, because I still have to deal with problems that I never knew were there before. New revelations keep popping up adding to the already mounting difficulties. I try to hold it all in. I feel that I can’t let the kids see how sad, angry and overwhelmed I am feeling.
I know I am very fortunate and don’t have the worries that others are suffering. I even feel guilty for feeling over whelmed and alone.
Most of my friends are much younger than I am and could never relate to what I am going through. It sounds like you have finished your education and are ready to see the world. I am an acupressurist (no needles). I love my work. I have studied it since I was fourteen. My hands and wrists can no longer do the work I was able to do.
So I have started school again. This time I am pursuing a new dream. It will involve a lot of travel. (If I can’t make the money I use to, at least I can do a lot of travel.) As part of my education I have planned first to go to Costa Rica to do some volunteer work, study Spanish and their seven eco systems. I am hoping that my Spanish will improve during my stay. I have planned to do the same in other countries. It would have been nice to have done so while making memories with my husband, but life certainly isn’t always what we expect. For now I look forward to new friends and experiences. Traveling and really getting to know the people. There are some great programs for volunteers in other countries. Maybe that might be something you would enjoy. You could make a difference in the world. There is all kinds of info on the internet about volunteering in other countries. I wish the best for you. Thank you for expressing yourself so well. And for allowing me to vent. I have found myself overwhelmed before and I know it will all be taken care of. I just wish I wasn’t trying to fixit all alone. I know that I am not really alone and that God hears and helps me. I just wish I was making a forever after with a forever after kind of guy. I am sure you understand.

God bless you Academic! You’re taking active steps to change your situation, and for that I admire you. I’m a bit new at having so much freedom now that I’ve finished my education for now. And I feel like a kid having this massive world of opportunities at my fingertips. Everything seems so possible, yet I don’t seem to have the courage to jump, effectively, and take charge of my life. But reading your post, gives me some of that to get on my way.

Thank you, and I wish you the best of luck in your future travels!:-)

your not stupid. dont feel that way