man help: i recently got married, with a man who is everything to me.

valdivia

i recently got married, with a man who is everything to me.

i have been nothing but kind to him, i have been the wife that everyman wishes he could have, and we had aggred that because he doesnt know how to control his alcohol intake he cannot drink without me. i just found out this morning at 0300 or thereabout that he overdrank, and passed out outside with his friends, and he had stopped breathing. i called the er, and they said he is fine now. i am already overwhelmed with stress and i dont know what to do with him anymore. i love him and i know he is a good guy, but how much of this do i have to take before i have a heart attack and die.

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smt007 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (41 minutes after post)

your husband is an alcoholic, you cannot fix him or manage his addiction for him. you need to take care of yourself and put lots of space between you in order to do so. when you are married to an addict you are married to the addiction not the person. sorry there isn’t an easier answer.

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Dubai, 03, AE | 2 years, 10 months ago (47 minutes after post)

sweetie you need to get him to counseling asap, you need to sit down with him and have a serious talk with him about this, it is not a simple matter. I understand it is not something that started recently, why is he drinking? why do you accept that? why is he not stopping? Is there a solution and if you have a solution is he ready to change? does he realize that he has a problem?

You really need to take it seriously and be prepared that you can lose him, try to make plans to see to it that you do not end up on the street and ask help from family and friends, try to change the place you live or see to it that you are close to your friends and/or friends, it always helps to change scenary in a crisis.

Please try to bring him to a counselar but you need to seek counseling for yourself because you truly need support through this difficult time. It is truly a difficult burden to watch a loved one suffering from any type of addiction, let alone get into the horror of seeing them on the edge of death. Please take care :)

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (2 hours, 6 minutes after post)

im an alcoholic, and im now seeking help for my addiction. Its sad but true that we never admit to our problem, for we (then) dont believe we have one. Until your husband admits to HIS problem and he can seek help, then you will always have a problem with his drinkin. I hope all goes well for you. God bless.

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Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (3 hours, 55 minutes after post)

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