Love help: I love someone that doesn’t love me back; not one bit. - Help.com

same here..i’m going through it right now too..what else could be the reason i’m here. well..i thought this guy is really different from other guys and he promised me forever..actually he promised a lot like not letting me go, will never hurt me..but all those are just a total LIE! my advice is to not expect..yeah don’t expect! and just enjoy your life..go out with friends and have fun checking out some hotties!

i have this problem…when i give up on it the situation improves slightly…

i like easton fields but he dosent like me back and as a boyfriend
i wish i could kiss him
woman seeking a man

im in love with this girl, it hurts so much, the worst words i had ever heard were “i dont think we could ever have anything more than just friendship”, i felt like smashing my face into a mirror, am i not good enough?

I am going crazy in the same situation. I live with this guy: he’s in my college halls. I have to see him every mealtime. I can’t stand him and I can’t stand not seeing him. I hate every minute of it.

I guess the best advice I can give you is to train yourself to not think about him. It’ll get easier in time, I promise. x

I know how it feels im in love with this girl that has done so much during the course of our “friendship” to make me never want to speak to her again….but I do…. the worse part is over the year that I knew her I’ve fallen for her….she is one of the most wonderful people I know…but I fell for her hard….and after about 8 months I told her that im in love with her and she said she knew…..and that she was indenial about it….and that she cherishes our friendship and will always love (ME) as a friend….it hurt so bad to hear those words….ughhh but im slowly trying to get over her….what else can I do if she doesn’t realize a good thing in front of her

i sooo understand were your coming from i made the worst mistake of my life i loved someone who loved me back they asked me out but i was to affrade to say yes he thought i didnt love him but i did i really did. now hes with a girl and shes really nice and cute but i love him and i always will never be afrade to tell them you love them or else you could end up just like me!

I’m always falling in love with people who never love me!It’s the same story again and again! Always the same! And I’m always ending up being hard broken with an empty hug! It’s happening every time! Neither of them had the courage to be different!

i was there too. i finally gave up on him…and then he called me. & now i’m back there again. & i feel awful…because i can’t tell him how i feel. i pretend like i don’t feel anything for him anymore….but the truth is i still love him so much. but he doesn’t feel that way 4 me at all. & i don’t think he ever did….

im in love with this guy and it hurts so bad..people always told me if it hurts its not love but why cant i let it go..like at first i didnt love him it was a fling but he grew on me ..I done took him out did things for him and then one day it was silent no response..flat line he doesnt even look at me or even speak..what the hell amm ijk pose to do i try everyday not to think of him but I just cant help it I wish he would get out my head..

Well..Im in the same situation..Dis guy his s0 sweet n caring n evritng dat u rli want in a guy..We had chemistry n we both realised it..Later wen i did tl him openly’i like you’..I rli thawt he w0uld fl the same bt he jst pt me off..But im still deeply inl0ve wit him..N i tnk of him always n hw we used to be..It d0esnt help wen pe0ple tel u that dnt waste ur time n ul get over it..Maybe u wil get over it..But surely n0t nw, atleast n0t to u..U jst gna havt0 pass this phase on ur own in ur own time…

Im in love with this girl and she only thinks of me as a friend. I love her so much, when I see her I smile. When I look into her eyes im lost. I told her but I think she’s just afraid of commitment. I wish she could see a good thing in front of her. I cant stop thinking about her.

hi, I fell in love so hard, he was a friend and I let him know how I feel and now he doesn’t phone or write. And he was so nice before. I am trying to cope with it and maybe I will phone him one day and ask why. But not now, I am scared to find out that he got afraid of any commitment, maybe if he has more time, he might realize, that it was nice being such friends. All the luck to us all.

Are all guys the same or something? Honestly I want to know what is going through their heads when they obviously do this to many girls repeatedly. I am also, GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING. This guy used to really like me and be super sweet and amazing and I just wasn’t ready for him. Then when I fell for him, he lost interest. And I face planted. He is all I think about and all I want. He will text me and then kill the conversation. Its constantly a head game of me not knowing how he feels. I can’t stand it. Everyone tells me you deserve so much better, you can do better, he’s a jerk. All the advice goes in one ear and out the other. Its good to know that “jesuisl” actually made through this and is a better person because of it. I ask myself “why?” every single day. Why doesn’t he like me, why does he mess with me, why does he act like this? I can’t stand it. It is killing me from the inside.

Hi,

Similar story. I fell at first sight for this young woman. It was a year later before she actually suggested to -me- that we go out for a bite to eat. I interpreted it as a step towards something more. She wasn’t thinking this way. We would hang out about once a month over the past year. I loved having those evenings of being with her - just talking.. work, life, anything. She was always encouraging me to have a drink or two too (after the first time out, most often we were hanging out at her place). Finally I told her how I really felt, and she told me she didn’t feel the same.

We continued hanging out. I found it hard, but I love having her as a friend. Now she’s moving away to be with another fellow. In our last time to “hang out”, she leaned on me.. and I took it as a sign to cozy up. And next thing of course.. we were kissing. Things got steamy. And then she stopped me. Said she couldn’t. She wanted to, because it would be fun with me, but couldn’t. I was crushed. I am crushed. It’s not over for me yet.. I forsee.. weeks of pain. Especially when she actually moves away in a couple of weeks from now. I feel like… like I’m losing the one good thing that came along in my life in a long, long time. And powerless to do anything about it.

And like you.. I wonder why. Why when I try to be a good person, the good guy gets left behind?

I started talking to the love of my life because my best friend crushed him. He liked her so much and she led him on then let him go. He was so hurt that he came to me about it and we ended up being best friends. I never thought of him romantically cuz he liked my best friend but we would hang out everyday. We became inseparable. He told me absolutely everything and i the same. He comes over almost every night and we sit and talk. I know everything about it. I love everything about him. I didn’t realize i was in love with him until he left for a week and i realized i needed him and i didn’t want to go a single day without seeing his face. I picture us getting married. I have no idea if he loves me. I have no idea if he could ever see me as romantic. I’m nothing like my best friend that he liked so much. I don’t know it sucks cuz I feel like i’m not good enough. I’m way to chicken to tell him how I feel cuz we’re so close and I would be absolutely devastated if our friendship changed and after reading everyone’s stories on here it sounds like that’s whats going to happen if i do…so i guess i’m just doomed to suffer?

I too love a guy and still loving him. At first we were just frens and then i started to like, he did too.. Then i fell in love with him for all that he was.. because he was so sweet to me, liked me so much and would help me in everything.. I felt that love from his side only then i told him that i love him. He did say a big NO but he was good to me after that later he started to say that he cant be the same anymore bcoz he doesnt love me.. Am so heart broken. Icant explain my heart cries everytime i see him.. He doesnt even feel a bit of my love.. But one thing is i cant forget him, he was so sweet and i will always love him…

I met this girl at work… I made the biggest mistake of breaking up with my gf of nearly two years for this girl. Nothing got off the ground but I fell for her. Later my ex would get with my friend and they been dating happily ever since so im happy for her but my side isnt as good. perhaps karma is a ***** lol… the girl i fell for went home for Christmas came back and started liking a different guy. For a while I thought she liked me, later i found out she did like me last year, but just this week, she told my friend that she likes this other guy… but the confusing thing is that she knows i like her and everyone can see i love her so much but she doesnt say anythnig to me. She still flirts and acts all couply with me and it just confuses not just myself but everyone that knows us… ive loved her for nearly a year now and my brain tells me to move on but my heart wont… :( I guess we are all in the same boat but in different circumstances!

Im a guy and im in love with another guy. Im bisexual. Im in total love with this guy. I’ve only felt this kind of love once before and its so different. I love him so much but he doesnt love me back. He keeps saying “Something bad’s going to happen or he doesn’t know.”
Im tired of this all and im starting to give up on myself.

I think we’ve all been here. I wish I could tell you that it will all be ok but i think it’s something that you have to grow out of. I’m in a similar situation. I was madly in love with this guy for a year and we randomly hooked up one day the next year and have been sleeping together for a year and a half now. He doesn’t care one bit about me and it took me until now to realize that. I know you posted this awhile ago so I hope that your situation has worked out. :]

i love a boy and he has fallin out of love with me it hurts so bad seeing him hearing him speek i want him bac so bad i really do love him what can i do

you know what ,
im in the same situation ,
dont worry about it ,
ive been in this situation for many years now ,
this boy is driving me crazy , because he acts like he likes me ,
but he has a girlfriend , and honestly shes the ugliest **** ull ever see.
noe ffence to her ,
i feel the same , deep down i kinda think he still likes me ,
advice : hang out with ure firends more , guys are guys give it some time .
well get through this together ,
and honestly , i dont thionk u should give up ,

I fell madly in love with my best guy Friend. Me and my best guy friend hung
out all the time. (let’s call him bob) .. Bob was in my class from 6th grade through out 8th grade. In 6th me and him were good friends and we just kept getting closer. Back the, I NEVER thought of him in the ‘’romantic'’ way. Now im at the end of 8th grade and me and him are no longer friends because of something stupit that happend. Bob’s not allowed to talk to me at school, but he’ll sit by me at lunch and talk to my friends. I most the time lie awake at night and just cry my heart out. I relized during our time apart that Iv been in love with him the WHOLE time. He was there for me during thick and thin. I would call him on his cell crying ovr a break up I just had and he knew how to cheer me up. The point is, I have to see him everyday in class, and he’s going to the same High school as me. I love him and I think There will always be apart of me that will forever be apart of him.

I think the silence speaks for itself

Tell me about it/i was with this guy since i was 12 years old i am now 18 i love him so fuckig much itz crazy he know how i feel but our feeling are’nt thesame he doesnt like meand i think never did he use to come to ma house everyday it felt like love but it was just my imagination ithink about him always dream about him and i really wanna be wuit him for life,he was my first at everything and i hope itll work out i really love him

Im in the same boat, its driving me insane. She led me on so much and as soon as i said that i loved her and wanted to be with her she started making up excuses to not be with me. man its killing me so bad. and now shes flirting with one of my best mates and always going on about how great he is to me, i dont know if shes trying to make me jealous or what.
but she has a track record of being really into a guy and when she cracks them she will move onto someone else.

man she took advantage of me so badddddd ive been trying so hard to let go but i just cant because she’ll always give me a glipse of how she was every now and then to keep me hooked.

I have this exact same problem. I met this guy like two and a half years ago, when I was 15. He was 23, nearly 24 at the time. We met in a bar, and when he asked me about my age, I told him that I was 17 so that he would carry on talking to me because I just thought he was so amazing. He was from Glasgow in Scotland (I’m from London) and I’ve always loved the Scottish accent. He was so funny and charming and just all round amazing. Then after seeing him and texting/calling for about 2-3 months, he asked me one day (when we was in the same bar) if I wanted to come back to his flat, which was like only above the pub. I was so scared about what was going to happen as I was so young and he didn’t realise how young I was, that I ended up telling him on his doorstep how old I was. He was soo shocked it’s unbelievable but he still invited me in and we just had drinks etc. But after that we didn’t talk that much - just a hello thing everynow and again when I see him, and then one day I see him and he asked me if I was 16 yet and when I said no, he just looked so dissapointed - like he wished I was 16. But then he invited me upstairs again. I felt like I was falling for him so badly, that I agreed. You can guess what happened. But then a few months later I asked his friend where he was as I hadn’t seen him in ages and he told me that he’d gone back upto Scotland. i felt so heartbroken, I’ve never felt that way in my whole life. I recently found him on a social networking site but discovered that he has a girlfriend - who really does not deserve him it seems. Me and him have brief chats via messages etc. but I’m struggling to even remember what he looks like anymore. I just love him so much, he pretty much takes over my life thinking about him all day long. I don’t feel like I could ever ever get over him. And I don’t think he will ever realise how I feel. He’s 26 now and I’m 17. I think it was the age gap between us that he didn’t like but I do not care about that at all. And I don’t care what other people think when they hear about it. I just wish he was here so that I could tell him how I feel.
So girl, don’t worry about it, you’re in the same boat as everyone here it seems. you just have to get through it and just try to focus your mind somewhere else. don’t pester them with calls/texts etc because they won’t like that, it will just annoy them. Just be grateful that you still get to see their face and always make sure that you’re in their eyesight - not neccessarily talking to them - but just so that they can always see you. They will learn to see what they’re missing. I wish my Scottish guy was here so that I could do the same to him. Good luck. Don’t stop trying.

I Fell For A Guy after been with him for 2 weeks. we was together for months an i feel hard. i gave him everything. he told me we would be together for ever, have kids everything the whole deal. he “loved me” he said he did anyway. then we broke up. i felt like my world was crashing around me! i had made him my everything.
To this day i still miss him and would give ANYTHING to get him back hes my world and still is. i miss so mucch and i dont know how to let go. i wish i could because i no hes not right for me but i love him.
i feel like i cant do anything if im not with him.
i want him to call and say everythings going to be ok! thaat we can try again. but things like this dont happen to me!
well now iv said what i wanted to say,
yeah have reltionships but dont let yourself get hurt! its the worst feeling in the entire world!

im going through this but the guy i really love is dating someone else and i always thought he loved me but then he met her and she makes him happy and they r looking at a furture together i really love him but i cant tell him cause i get mad and me and him always get into a arguement and he is all i think about and i jus wish that he would love me as much as i love him

I’m In Love With This Guy…But The Thing Is, He Doesn’t Even Know Me. We Go To School Together And Stuff…But He Doesn’t Know Me. What Do I Do? Please Help!!

i know exacttly what your going through and it hurts to know he doesnt love you back but if you r truely in love with him and u think hes the one then dont let him go hold on tight and tell him how you feal and ask him if you can just go to the park to talk or something and just maybe he’ll feal what he use to feal and he’ll regret not fealing like that along time ago

i have the same situation right now and it sucks. i love this girl so much. we started as friends and we were always together talkin and hangin out so then i started to liked her and told her that i love her. but she doesnt like me like that and now she got a bf. but the good thing is we still hangout and talk she never changed she is still sweet and caring for me. but the good thing is also the bad thing because her sweetness and care makes me fall in love deeper and deeper. she told her bf that im a special person in her life and she asked her bf not to get jealous about me and the bf is ok about it. i dont know what to do this is insane. i told her once that i will stop loving her and this is her response “ok, im not gonna change tho because you are special to me” so now im like god ****. i asked her if there are any chance of me and her being together and she said she dont know. man this is crazy sh!t

I guess we all fall for the wrong guy at some point in our lives, whether or not we know it at the time. Now i always thought i was the most faithful woman, got married to the love of my life at 22, blissfully happy. However when he went away to another country on work for 6 weeks I started an affair of the heart with my best male friend. Now he told me he loved me but wouldnt act on it because I was married, but one thing lead to another and we kissed, many times. I managed to rebuild my marriage, although I have never told, or will tell him. The thing is the other guy is my best friend, or was and I dont wanna lose what we had. Its tearing me up, he said he no longer loves me, because he doesnt want to break up my marriage, but when I look in his eyes I know he still does love me. Theres a connection there that is indescrible. He made me feel like never before but I love my husband and dont wanna be a cheat. So i have to live with guilt and unrequited love and I know that it is my fault!

I am 55 years old and I have loved a woman for the last 14 years that doesn’t love me back. Most of the people around us think we have this good relationship. They have no idea that the only physical contact I get with her is when I reach out and hug her. I have no idea why I put up with this. All my friends have told me to “run forest run!” Our first 6 months of the relationship was the most beautiful and exciting I have ever had. Then slowly she just changed. She was taking prozac for a while which improved her disposition (she is mean without it) but quit taking it several months ago (she says she doesn’t need it). We do not live together but she has lived with me several times because I always give her a place to come. I guess it’s not her with the problem, it’s me. I just need to walk away. But I can’t seem to do it.