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Thank you ping, for the information. Don’t worry about your grammar. Your english is so much better than our dutch!lol

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I also have ADHD and let me first state that ADD and ADHD are benefits if they are treated properly, that doesn’t always mean drugs.

ADD and ADHD are evolution characteristics of the hunter personally; it is our survival system, it allows us to think faster and more complex then the average person. The problem is not in the ADD/HD, it is in how we understand it, treat it and surround ourselves in environments that nurture it.

We lose focus, get distracted and act out when we get bored, uninterested or have too much energy. I cannot listen to someone talk for great length about a subject that does not interest me, but I can play the same game of chess for 3 hours without blinking, simply because I am using my best God given gift, my mind.

Example One: If you are a parent of a child who was a very fast runner, would you lock him in a room or take them to a track? Of course you would take them to a track, you encourage the talents, not hinder them.

Well your AD/HD is a talent, focus on what can help, find ways to simulate their minds, if we find something that interests us, we usually hyper-focus, and can spend hours fixated on what ever activates is exercising the mind.

I have found great benefit from drinking coffee (stimulant), and lots of it, a pot in the morning at least. In addition, I exercise to release the energy that gives me the overactive behaviours and finally, I try the find ways to engage my mind, not limit it.

Hope this helps someone out there,

Jason

I’m not sure that this was a question so much as a discussion, but anyway,

I have also been diagnosed with ADD - inattentive subtype (I don’t have excessive energy). I have no problem listening for long periods of time to any subject but I find the way I understand things is different from other people. Being diagnosed did not help, neither did medication, but that is in part because I can not find a doctor who will prescribe stimulant medication instead of effexor. This is because I have once been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and they don’t want relapse. Also I have found psychologists and psychiatrists to be manipulative and sneaky and I hate dealing with them.

So I have been off medication with no treatment for years now, and a change in school subject along with exercise and strategy has got me an almost perfect GPA.

However sometimes I feel like I have no friends or almost no friends. I don’t know if this is an ADD thing, I’ve heard a lot of people with high intelligence have this problem too. I wonder if I miss a lot of social cues or what? And I know I am generally physically attractive to the opposite sex, but have had only 2 gfs in my life. If anyone has ADD advice on how not to be a loner I would not mind.

My 8 yr old daughter had ADHD and has been on Ritalin for a few years. It helps her focus on school but I also encourage her to channel her energy through playing soccer, singing, acting, etc. She is a very talented girl and I don’t feel she’s hindered at all by the medication. It works for some people and for some it doesn’t.

daughter *has* ADHD - not *had* - my mistake

Hi everyone,

I just want to thank this post, because this is my 1st attempt to find help online.

I have been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. I agree with the hyper-focus, and using the hunter type skills to our advantage. I am looking for jobs in sales mostly because i find that i can do well there. I also cant stand working on something repetitive. i think i have a highly creative mind.

over the years, i have applied for and gotten jobs that i got bored of very quickly. I realize that a person with ADD/ADHD usually belongs at the top of any organization’s structure, because we can simplify complex problems and think on multiple levels very quickly.

I heard Richard Bransen, the president of the Virgin group has some learning disability, maybe ADD; can someone please confirm this?

I find myself to be a loner though. I have few friends, i usually find myself calling people and not them calling me that often…i too have had only 1 gf throughout my life, and i find that many girls have told me that i am very attractive… i do feel i miss social cues a lot…even b4 i was diagnosed, i used to say this, and never thought i might have ADD/ADHD… the report tells me that depression usually accompanies ADD/ADHD, so i do tend to see my own highs and lows…but i find that staying busy helps…i find not doing anything really makes me feel low and depresses me…

Is there any good websites for us? I am in Toronto Canada.

I’d like to correspond with anyone out there who know about ADD/ADHD 1st hand, either having it, knows someone who has it, or is a professional who treats cases. Also if you can recommend any good sites, in particular that show how to turn this DIS-ability into a ABILITY….if u know what i mean…including any great personalities who made it…

Thanks and i look forward to your emails @ (email removed)

oh on the last post its me brad, please email me @ bradspenceradd [at] yahoo dot com

Hey brad, I am from Toronto too, though studying elsewhere. I beleive the center for addiction and mental health has resources, for one thing there is a support group that you can go to but you need a doctor’s referral. I never went though because since I heard about it, it has been in conflict with my schedule.

Much of what you said I feel I have in common. Though I once did well in a sales environment I am very introverted. I have recently been getting the top marks in all sections of my classes including a few 100%s, but have trouble making friends with people at school, even in my program. Anyway I guess I’m repeating myself. I’ll send you an email sometime if I feel I have anything to ADD to what I said. I’m not sure if I have much that can help though.

I have adhd

Here is a site that my dr recommended to me…they have not only info about ADD/ADHD for children & adults, but also info about support groups around the country. It is: www.chadd.org

I’m ADD and my husband is ADHD, and people usually cringe when they hear that, but he’s the first person I’ve ever met who really understood me and had patience with me.