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Me and the Mrs.
are at it again! What is the deal?We married and I am younger. She has 3 kids but thats ok.I am 16 years younger but thats ok. I have known her a while and she is a wonderful woman.We love God and all that he has in store for us. I just hate the hostility and frusteration I continuily encounter in our Life. I know it is a part of life and to be expected.My problem is that we struggle. I take care of alot of our needs-(I know God meets our needs)but I am making reference more toward responsiblities.I work-she doesnt.I make myself available for the kids-homework, talks, recreation.And I feel like most of the time she is unable to meet these needs. She battles depression and I feel like I suffer because of it. I am not perfect, but I dont smoke,drink or drug and I love the Lord Jesus. I try to be the man God created me to be and i fall short alot-but not always. I have suggested exercise and change in diet to my wife, but she has not chosen to act on my suggestions. We continue to struggle financially and emotionally-and i feel that she is not doing her part.Some times I am more sympathetic than others.Sometimes she plays the victim and I just cant tolerate the injustice that is being said and done. So I share my views on the matter-which usually includes some condemnation and strong opinions.At which point a defensive close minded woman takes over my wifes personality and it is on. We communicate in all the wrong ways. When it is over I have relief and regret. And i missed it again. I said things I wished I hadnt have said, In ways I wished I hadnt of said them.Not to mention the conviction I feel spiritually.The Bible tells me to Love my wife as Christ loved the church-”Boy did I miss that”. So I try to humble myself and clean up the mess.This task is also difficult considering the fact that my wife is miles away from me intimately and emotionally.Things get Loud and ugly but no physical violence.Frusterated but not alone!
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