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My husband and I split a few months ago.

He said he was no longer in love with me and wanted a divorce. I found out he was cheating…again…You see, 2 years ago the same thing happened. A couple of months after that first split he begged me to take him back, knew he loved only me, and would spend the rest of his life showing me just that. Now, about 5 months after this newest incident. He wants me back…again. I had finally gotten to the point where I felt ok. Happy even. And looking forward to the future, as uncertain as it is. Now I am thrown for a loop. And I know I should not take him back. But I guess I just need to hear it, from someone who doesn’t know me and care about me. All my friends, obviously, think I am insane to even think of the possibility of being with him again. Oh, did I mention we have a 10 month old baby? I feel so sad right now. And I know I am making him sad by not telling him I will take him back, and that just makes me feel worse. It is a big mess. I need help. I need advice…please…

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I should add that he is very charming, and very convincing. He has a way with words, always has. That is why, even knowing as I do that even if he believes what he is saying, it probably won’t last long, it is hard not to fall for it. I am not a stupid woman, except when it comes to love.

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2 years, 7 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Idk wut kind of guy would do tht to some1 he loves. from the opposite side, ima guy who went thru a cheating gf, this was after 2 yrs and i decided to let her go. 2 weeks later she wanted me back so i said yes and we’re happy rite now. this is just a young 19 year old talkin so obviously idk wut ur goin thru. i would not re-marry him but still keep him in ur life for ur baby’s sake. growing up w/o a father figure can be hard

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (8 minutes after post)

I would say if counceling is in the future i might do it….. REMEMBER the child that is what i would look at……. I want to be on your side….. cheater always a cheater….. don’t know all about your situation…. Let go let God!!!!!

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Yeti. 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (15 minutes after post)

He ain’t gonna change in the nearby future. I’d be surprised if he did in the distant future.

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My husband and I split a few months ago. He said he was no longer in love with me and wanted a divorce. I found out he was cheating…again…You see, 2 years ago the same thing happened. A couple of months after that first split he begged me to take him back, knew he loved only me, and would spend the rest of his life showing me just that. Now, about 5 months after this newest incident. He wants me back…again. I had finally gotten to the point where I felt ok. Happy even. And looking forward to the future, as uncertain as it is. Now I am thrown for a loop. And I know I should not take him back. But I guess I just need to hear it, from someone who doesn’t know me and care about me. All my friends, obviously, think I am insane to even think of the possibility of being with him again. Oh, did I mention we have a 10 month old baby? I feel so sad right now. And I know I am making him sad by not telling him I will take him back, and that just makes me feel worse. It is a big mess. I need help. I need advice…please…

NotYouButMyself 3 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

Sounds like he jus wants you back cause he has no one else at the moment. I wouldn’t take him back, you can find someone better than that.

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Yeti. 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (1 hour, 54 minutes after post)

No amount of charm works on blind eyes and deaf ears.

sandelightful 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (2 hours, 22 minutes after post)

A wise Yeti =)

suellew2 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (3 weeks, 5 days after post)

Sorry this is going to sound horrid but the word door mat springs to mind he cheats once ok maybe forgive but twice and with a small baby no no no he is wiping his feet on you after stepping in dog mess. Let him be a father but nothing else listen to your friends they love you

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