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My girlfriend wont stop talking to her ex
Well ive been with my girl for 8 months. im 23 shes 22. she had 6 months that she hadnt been in a relationhsip but that relationship was 4 years long. well we became boyfriend and girlfriend. the problem is her ex!.he now realizes what he lost and wont stop talking to her..he wants her back. My girlfriend said that i dont have to worry even if she broke up with me she wont take him back. but she keeps talking to him. 2 months after we were together i bumped into one of her texts and well she was flirting with him. THey were calling eacho other “babe”. i got so pissed and confronted her. her excuse was its a habit to call each other babe. I thought it was the lamest excuse ever. SHe said she would stop i believed her and thought she would. she assured me she wasnt cheating on me and i believe her cus she is not that type of girl. . im the second guy she has been with sexually and she doesnt go from one guy to another. In that part i trust her and i know she wont do that to me. . We were ok for like 2 months then later i found out that she was still talking to him maybe not in that way anymore but she still had contact with him. I asked her if she still loved him and she said not that much anymore. She told me that she was starting to fall inlove with me. But what bothers me is that the guy wont stop talking to her he sents her messages that he loves her. she doesnt reply. but eventough he does that she keeps talking to him. cus she says they are best friends. and before anything they were best friends. **** im fu**ed!! i told her well a best friend doesnt tell you he loves you. a month ago we had another fight over this. i got pised and texted her ex at work and said..to fu*k off from my relationship. and he said that he loves her and isnt going to and said that my girl told him she would give him a second chance. When i read this my whole wrold just collapsed. I got out work drove to her house and confronted her. I asked her if it was true. she said no. she said that she told him if she ever broke up with me then maybe she would consider taking him back. I asked her why would you give him hope? why would you disrespect me in that way if you are with me? i was ready to break up. but out of nowhere she promised she would stop talking to him for good and she apologized and and that same night she told me she loved me. I felt happy then about 2 weeks they start commenting on each others post on facebook. I didnt think much of it cus its just facebook. but then i went to her house and she wasnt there. she had left her facebook on..and well i saw that she was chating with her ex.. and what pissed me off is that she initiated the conversation. and then she asked him if he wanted to chat on ichat. with the webcam.(he lives like 2 hours away)but that pissed me off..i confronted her again and she told me its hard to not talk to him cus “they are best friends”..i asked her to stop and she said i dont want to promise something that i know i wont keep. i told her just stop!..u are messing around with my feelings dont you want me to be happy. And she said i want both of u t be happy! wow! i couldnt believe she said that! shes like i want my best friend to be happy(her ex) and u to be happy. i told her there is no way thats gonna happen..do u take me for a joke? a way to make him jeleous? she said no..this was the last argument we had…I honestly feel im stressing out over this everyday..i feel im always paranoid that they might be texting each other. especially cus shes lied before…idk how to make her forget him..she says they are just friends but deep inside i know that she still has feelings for him in a different way. I dont want to accept it cus i dont want to lose her..This is the first time ive felt true love for a girl and i will do anything for her anyday. but it hurts me to see this go on..I feel she doesnt have respect for me..she doesnt respect our relationship. because she still calls him. she knows he wants her back so i dont understand why she keeps giving him hope. I feel she doesnt allow him to move on to a new relationship because in a way she gives him hope and he keeps holding on to her. i just feel if she stoped talking to him then he will get over her and move on..I dont get it. she tells me she loves..I tell her i love her everyday! im always there for her! i buy her flowers and little pressents! i send her poems trhough email text messages! im always sweet and lovable to her! i feel i give her 100% of my love! and she doesnt do that for me..yea she tells me she loves me..but every now and then and sometimes i feel i have to get her to say it outta force..im always the first one to say i love you before we hang up..and sometimes all she says back is “ok”! aahh bit#$ that hurts! i feel my mistake was to give her 100% of my love..maybe i should have gave her 50 and saved the rest. I feel that maybe she enjoys the attention. that she loves having me under her feet..that she loves feeling special..but yet i love her.. i wonder if i stop being too lovable if she will change. i started doing that over the past week..and now shes starting to text me, sending me kisses outta nowhere and telling me that she loves me. Should i keep this going? not tell her that i love her too much? maybe not call her to much and pretend i have better stuff to do? and maybe let her call me perhaps?? cus i feel most of the time im the one who calls..i honestly dont know what to do should i make her choose between me and her ex..either stop talking to him or stop talking to me?? but when we see each other in person its completly different..shes the one hugging me and kissing me i see in her eyes that she loves me..but its just confusing me..when were away thats how she acts..when shes away thats when she calls or texts her ex.. she just wont stop talking to her ex!! thats the big problem! if he wanst in the picture it would be perfect!help me please…idk what to do sometimes i feel im the only one trying to save the relationship..she doesnt seem to care much about it..i dont talk to any of my ex’s i dont keep in touch with them outta respect for her..i expect the same from her..help please…
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