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I’m a hetero guy, and I’ve been with my girlfried for almost 2 years.

The entire time we’ve been together, she’s been pushing me to look and act more feminine. I don’t know why she does this, maybe she’s bi, or maybe she enjoys the power trip, but I haven’t put up much fuss since I mostly enjoy it. I’ve grown my hair, and worked on my appearance and voice to where I can pass for a woman in most situations. We’ve gone away for several long weekends where I pretended to be her sister the whole time. Around the apartment, she likes me to be dressed female all the time, which is fine with me.

Because of the way I keep my hair, nails, etc., its a pain to switch back to looking like a guy, so I do it less and less. I’m thinking that if I can find a job as a woman, I’ll just stay like this all the time.

I’d like to hear from those who have done this, or have useful suggestions for living as a woman.

Thanks!

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (12 minutes after post)

Is that you in the picture?

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Totally NOT something that would interest me. I like my h being the rugged guy that he is. Sorry if this isn’t what you were looking for. If it bothers you, walk away. I would say that this is rather bizarre, but that’s just my opinion. Do what works for you. Maybe your gf needs counselling to help her to decide what “goal” she has for getting you to do this. Might be good for you to attend, too. You might figure out why you are going along with it and what the ultimate outcome is suppose to be. Best of luck in figuring that out!

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CA | 2 years, 8 months ago (18 minutes after post)

I once sat down and thought long and hard about whether I was male or female. Eventually I decided that even though I have a lot of feminine characteristics, I am at my core male and always will be. I could have decided that if I was a girl if I really wanted to, but it’s not who I really was.
I know you’ve probably been over this yourself many times, but I’d just like some assurance that you’ve stepped back and thought about whether this is really what you want. A lot of people try to change their gender for the wrong reasons and it just turns out embarrassing for all. Women can be awfully persuasive, after all.

As to living your life like this, there’s really nothing to it. It becomes natural and most people never catch on. Appearance needs touching up from time to time and clothes are a pain, but it sounds like you’ve got most of that sorted out already.

And as to whether it’s normal, it’s not. Sounds more to me like your girlfriend is a lesbian in denial. But I’m no expert, what do I know?

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2 years, 8 months ago (21 minutes after post)

To be honest, I usually read stuff like this on 4chan.org, particularly in /b/ section. They’ll more or less give you an honest opinion since some of them are traps themselves.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (24 minutes after post)

I’m going to start having every girl I date give me some medical records jus so I can verify she’s really a girl.
You’re definitely able to pull off the look.

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I’m a hetero guy, and I’ve been with my girlfried for almost 2 years. The entire time we’ve been together, she’s been pushing me to look and act more feminine. I don’t know why she does this, maybe she’s bi, or maybe she enjoys the power trip, but I haven’t put up much fuss since I mostly enjoy it. I’ve grown my hair, and worked on my appearance and voice to where I can pass for a woman in most situations. We’ve gone away for several long weekends where I pretended to be her sister the whole time. Around the apartment, she likes me to be dressed female all the time, which is fine with me.

Because of the way I keep my hair, nails, etc., its a pain to switch back to looking like a guy, so I do it less and less. I’m thinking that if I can find a job as a woman, I’ll just stay like this all the time.

I’d like to hear from those who have done this, or have useful suggestions for living as a woman. Also, I’d like to know if this is something many women fantasize about doing with their boyfriends.
Thanks!

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