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They just ask a lot of questions, and listen to you talk. The more you tell them, the better they can help. Not all are verbal either. Sometimes, they’ll have you write down things, or watch films, and let them know your thoughts on it.

It’s not a big deal, and if you get somebody like me as your councilor, they’ll try to make it as fun and enjoyable as possible, almost like talking to an old friend.

Go ahead and go.

What counseling is often like, is us telling them our experiences and theories about what happened, and they look for alternative explanations, trying to prove our actions unjustified…

It’s a rough process, set up to encourage people to re-think their old assumptions and beliefs.

It’s no big deal. The psychologist or psychiatrist is just going to ask you to tell them what what you have trouble dealing with. If you’re not sure, they’ll help you discover issues. They are trained to help and everything is confidential. Nothing to worry about. Nothing to be afraid of.

black rose wrote:
i just know as soon as i go i will not know what to say or i wont know how to say it

That’s perfectly okay. If you don’t know what to say, the councilor will ask you questions, and then you can say whatever you feel like saying. And like I said before, you don’t always talk. Sometimes, they just have you watch something, or look at things, or pick words off a list, or just hang out with you and get you to “open up” to them some.

They are not going to expect you to know everything. The first thing you should say is that you’re not precisely sure about everything and can they please help you to sort things out. There is nothing to fear. Go. They understand that you feel uneasy, you can even let them know that you feel uneasy.

Most of the people that get sent to me for therapy usually don’t want to be there, and they only show up because it’s court ordered. And though some of them think they’re going to just come in, stare at me for an hour, and then leave, I usually have them talking within 15 minutes.

Just find a councilor, and avoid the Freudsters, who insist on using analytical tests and control questions to psychoanalyze you. I hate psychotherapy; mainly because I failed the Inkblot test, and nearly drove my psychotherapist insane. But also because it’s so clinical, and not really a personal thing.

Hi B.R. :) From my own experiences with it, it has helped to find some help in processing things I did not know how to handle. I needed to learn how to overcome what had happened in my life. I needed tools to deal with relationships that were hard. I have had two different kinds of it, one was more of a group session and that was only for about a month, the other one was for 4 years with the same talk doctor. I talked she listened and then told me ways to handle things better. It helps a lot to want to go, and want to change yourself for you not for anyone else. Everything is very safe, and confidential nothing is shared outside of the session so you can relax and be confident to get help there.
You can talk as little or as much as you feel comfortable doing. You are completely in control of the whole thing, you can stop if it does not feel right.
Hugsxx