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Internet addiction

I think I am addicted to internet. I have valuable work to do. But everytime I sit with my work, I end up going to a chat site or just surf. I guess I am just lonely, and internet makes me somehow feel like someone or the other is with me, even if they are not talking to me directly. I recognize that this is interfereing with my work, but I dont know what to do. Though I resolve everyday to not surf, I end up being on the net all the time. It starts with me wanting to check for my messages - will take only a minute - and then I cant get off. I know the right thing to do is regulate the internet time to restricted hours, and also find real life friends that will address the basic issue of loneliness, but I’m just not able to do it :( Its like I compulsivly need someone with me all the time. :( I feel like I belong to internet like this is my home now and I cant get out. I’m ignoring my parents, my phone, my work. Its getting really detrimental and I dont know what to do. Any actionable help will be really appreciated. Thank you in advance.

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Simba offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (11 minutes after post)

I get this instead of studying - try to create targets like “I can use it from 3pm to 3.10pm if I do some washing, then have an alarm go off at 3.10pm so you have to stand up and walk away, until you do the next task. Similar inscentives work :O)

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theglycerineclown offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (22 minutes after post)

Argh I am like that too. I’m not as bad anymore, but I fear that I am slipping.

Setting targets like Simba said is helpful. But mostly, you have to have enough self control to force yourself to step away. Every time you go on a site that you’re not meant to be on or you’re just surfing, you have to remember you’re work and make yourself stop. It’s so hard, but it has to be done. Tell yourself that you can surf as much as you want afterwards.

But that’s not dealing with the root of the problem. If you’re lonely and you’re relying too much on the internet as a bandaid, then you have to do something about what’s going on in your life to get rid of the addiction. That’s easier said than done, I know. The thing is, there are many reasons why a person can be lonely or feel unsatisfied “IRL.” You don’t have to feel obliged to write anything here, but it’s something to think about.

I hope I’m not saying the obvious here :-/ If so, I apologise.

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