Feel help: Do guys like shy girls? - Help.com

guys love em. at least i do. my fav type of gal personally. :D that make you feel any better?

How guys make the move on shy girls?

no

I Love’em, n id have to say, they start by either sending a note, like i did to someone,w walk up to the girl n say hi, or ask one of her friends to hang out n invite the shy girl

i started with chat, and once i knew they were interested i made the move. nice and simple. :D

i love a shy girl, n to asnwer ur question, id say they prob say hi or send a note, depends on the person

Reserved isn’t the same as shy…
Shy means that they lack self esteem. I’m not gonig to try to hit a girl with low self esteem, it’s annoying.

Guys like confident women, women like confident men.

BUT shy guys do tend to prefer shy women and vice versa.

I’m the same as you, shy when you first meat me but then when im used to being around you it’s hard to shut me up lol

Surprisingly thats not uncommon and it’s not a bad thing, just makes it harder for you to get noticed, but then again shy people can seem mysterious and thats sometimes more intresting than being loud and noticable.

:)

i agree with Joshy’s post, im similar, i was scared to make new friends .. but once i know you ima cool person

Didn’t think there’d be so many yes answers. :) I’m confident in myself, just don’t talk much to people.

im the same way…

Shyness is simply allowing your anxiety to hold you back.

Your worry about what could happen (people not liking you) prevents you from taking the risk of interacting openly. Your perceived risk is higher than your perceived reward.

Shyness disappears when your perceived risk is less than the perceived reward (ie. with friends you expect them to accept you and not reject you)

Shyness will hold you back from success with men, work, and anything else in life. Why? Because you avoid risks.

You can conquer your shyness using a progressive model where you enter into simple social interactions (ie. talk to a clerk at a grocery store) and float with the feelings of anxiety until they disappear and then you enter a more complicated/higher risk interaction, rinse and repeat.

you have nothing to loose wen you meet somene new…

talking to people i don’t know is hard for me but once i get to know them it’s different(especially with guys). i’m more open & my personality shines more. like going out on a first date i probably wouldn’t say much until the 3rd or 4th date. but i’m trying to throw myself out there more & getting a little better.

Yes at first but it gets kind of boring after a while,well at least for me, I’ve always preferred the more aggressive type lol.But as you said when you get accustomed to the person just be your self let your feeling show, don’t allow yourself to be branded as shy girl or non shy girl, you can be both at times.

Anonymous wrote:
talking to people i don’t know is hard for me but once i get to know them it’s different(especially with guys). i’m more open & my personality shines more. like going out on a first date i probably wouldn’t say much until the 3rd or 4th date. but i’m trying to throw myself out there more & getting a little better.

Took me a few years after highschool to find my feet and come out of my shell, College really helped. I’m still cautious about what I say around people I don’t know… But it doesn’t take me long to get used to someone anymore.

I’m only 21, and I only really gained alot of my confidence when I was 20. Just put myself out there, had a lot of dates (went nowhere lol), had fun and got used to meeting new people.

Just keep putting yourself out there and talking to and meeting new people and you will grow in confidence and come out of your shell :D

yea i hope so. i would say i’m a little better than i was last year because of exposure. i don’t want to be shy forever!

Thats good that you dont want to, nobody does, i came out of my shell last month

Anonymous wrote:
yea i hope so. i would say i’m a little better than i was last year because of exposure. i don’t want to be shy forever!

the more mature you get, the less shy you become.
and maturity comes with experiences =P

So as experience more and more, you lose more and more shyness.

agreed :) it’s good to know that other people like me can come out of their shell.

Anonymous wrote:
agreed :) it’s good to know that other people like me can come out of their shell.

boils too xP

Anonymous wrote:
agreed :) it’s good to know that other people like me can come out of their shell.

Take it one small step at a time and reward yourself every time you take a risk, regardless of how it works out. The key is taking the risk, not avoiding discomfort.

One helping concept is realizing that everyone is anxious about meeting new people. The actions people take when meeting new people all reflect that anxiety. (ie. they tend to stick with people they know, or people who look like them, or people who smile at them, etc.)

If you read a book like “How to start a conversation and make friends” by Don Gabor you pick up a set of techniques you can use to put OTHER people at ease. When you focus on putting OTHER people at ease you FORGET your own anxiety AND you make them like you.

SOFTEN is the technique.

Smile
Open posture
Forward lean while listening to someone
Touch (handshake, pat on arm or shoulder or back)
Eye contact
Nod when someone is speaking

These tricks will make you far more approachable and likable in any interaction.

yup wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
agreed :) it’s good to know that other people like me can come out of their shell.

boils too xP

**** it…this was an answer to another notice lmao

linuxya wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
agreed :) it’s good to know that other people like me can come out of their shell.

Take it one small step at a time and reward yourself every time you take a risk, regardless of how it works out. The key is taking the risk, not avoiding discomfort.

One helping concept is realizing that everyone is anxious about meeting new people. The actions people take when meeting new people all reflect that anxiety. (ie. they tend to stick with people they know, or people who look like them, or people who smile at them, etc.)

If you read a book like “How to start a conversation and make friends” by Don Gabor you pick up a set of techniques you can use to put OTHER people at ease. When you focus on putting OTHER people at ease you FORGET your own anxiety AND you make them like you.

SOFTEN is the technique.

Smile
Open posture
Forward lean while listening to someone
Touch (handshake, pat on arm or shoulder or back)
Eye contact
Nod when someone is speaking

These tricks will make you far more approachable and likable in any interaction.

good advice…i will definitely try that out. it’s easy to forget that other people are nervous too when you feel like you’re the only one.