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I need help!

like asap! I just want to explain how my life has been going and have someone tell me what the problem is because im not sure how to change the way i am!

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (5 hours, 42 minutes after post)

Tell us more about youz and your life, please.

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (5 hours, 43 minutes after post)

* about you
(sorry for mistyping)

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nekita31 offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (17 hours, 8 minutes after post)

So, im a senior college student, studying graphic design… im not pleased with the quality of work i do, im a bit unmotivated and not sure where my life is headed… however, i am very optimistic that things can change… only if i begin to be more structured in my life.

Dont get me wrong, i am a good student, deans list and all, but im not sure how i managed to achieve such a thing… its like im a zombie going day by day, doing what i have to do… but not achieving much.

One thing that heavily clouds my mind is my relationship with my boyfriend… we have some very heavy trust issues but we are supposedly trying to work them out. I’ve gotten so wrapped up in him, his where-abouts and our relationship that i’ve kind of lost myself, who i am, what i truly like…

I use to worry alot, like almost to death and after my sophomore year in college i decided to become a little less worried by applying a really laid back apporoach to my work and it kind of worked because i dont stress myself out as much, i say to myself that things will get done one way or another… but on the flipside, it has also made me become a person whose always late, not greatly prepared and not having the quality of work i know that i can create.

I just want someone to some this up for me, what do you all suggest, what are your opinions!

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (18 hours after post)

The background problem seems to be your relationship, that you have given up yourself, your goals. Yes, as you express it yourself: zombie-like. You describe it very clear: “i’ve kind of lost myself, who i am, what i truly like”.

Nothing to add.
But something to do, by you!

Hey, wake up, get alive!
Change your live, quit your relationship, find back to your proper aims, retrieve your autonomy as a self-determining person, back from other-directed to self-directed! Escape from Zombie Town, go to your home town.

Do the cut! Right now! Before you’ll fall deeper into depression.

And I’m sure you also know this only way out, but you’re afraid. Of course, such a drastic change of track has no fun in the first time. But after a short time you will enjoy the new freedom and reclaim your life energy!

I wish you the best!

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (18 hours, 6 minutes after post)

And, my dear, if I go through your previous postings: With whine again and again you will not solve your one and only fundamental problem.
You have to act! Get a move on!

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nekita31 offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (19 hours, 35 minutes after post)

:) this is much of what i did after your response…

It is really about getting back to the things i love and being self-determined

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