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I’d say to just spend a lot of time with her and don’t ask probing questions. Let her do the talking and try to be positive in your outlook and how you portray things. Just knowing that you’re there and acting as a sounding board will do her a world of good. You can always ask for advice here if things start to look a little dicey. ..Willy.

Well, do you spend a lot of time WITH her, as in physically present? Texting is all fine and good, but remote and devoid of nuance. Thing is, and I hope I’ve read your post correctly, if you’re into self-harm (cutter or whatnot) you have an even better basis for empathy and understanding. Thing is, and I don’t know if you experience this too, I find that interacting ‘face to face’ provides me with a kind of ‘high’. I feel good and talking on the phone and texting just don’t quite cut it. I’m not saying to be a pest, ’cause everyone needs some space, but be there. Even watching a movie together.. don’t underestimate the ‘power’ of those quiet times with a friend. The big thing, however, is to engage in non-judgmental conversation. Make suggestions, not edicts. ..Willy..