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How to deal with a copycat!

! Hi everyone! I read the copy cat friend posts and I have the same problem. This person is my sister-in-law and it’s very scary how much she copies. She never wore cute things and didn’t know how to dress until she met me. At first she was really nice and wanted to be my bf, she would ask me what stores I shopped at and I didn’t think anything of it. Then I started to notice that she would have the same outfit I had on the weekend before and she would act like she didn’t know she did. She had never heard of coach, juicy, channel, or jimmy choo until she met me and now she will get purses like mine. She used to wear her husbands clothes and was very plain!! She is in love with my fiance and even tried to kiss him and he is her brother-in-law!! She would hang all over him on purpose to make me made, she trys to make me feel like I’m not apart of the family. I started going to the gym to lose weight last year and when I started losing weight she got pissed and wouldn’t talk to me. We had this big blow up last year and didn’t talk for months and everything in my life was great. My fiance and I got along better, I didn’t have to worry about what she was going to do and say next. She would tell people I hated her when she was the one copying and doing mean things to me, she would write nasty things about me on facebook. She even told me she didn’t know if my fiance and I would last so she didn’t know if it was even worth trying to makeup with me. We finally started talking again and she says she has changed but she hasn’t, I have ugg boots (she didn’t know what they were! She called all boots uggs!) and now she has them, I have dark hair now she is starting to dye hers dark and it was always blonde. I have always wore hats and now she wears them. She is sneaky about it now though, I really think she is just trying to be nice to me so my fiance will talk to her. Oh and she just started going to the gym! She wants a new engagement ring because I just got engaged and she wants to have another wedding when she has been married for 12 years. She also trys to compete with me about everything and tries to talk like me. I don’t know what to do, it makes me sooooo mad I can’t stand it!!! I really want to try to get along with her because we are going to be family but I don’t know how. She makes me so mad its all I can think about. I wish she would just be her own person and get her own style. I know she will probably never change and I don’t know how to just let it go and not let it bother me. She probably tells people I copy her, she is pathitic and reminds me of the movie single white female! She trys to hurt me on purpose and make me feel left out. I have never really said anything about it other then oh I have that or I have something just like that. Despite everything I don’t want to hurt her feeling. If anyone has any advise I would really like to hear it. I know this is like a rant but I don’t know what else to do, its taking over my life :(

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sasusaku718 offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Don’t let her get to you. She doing this to try to annoy you. About the thing where you said she acts like she trys to compete with you, don’t “compete” back. Also if she ever says something that REALLY gets to you or just is simply insulting, doon’t be afraid to insult her back. Thats all I can offer. Hope it helps!

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (16 hours, 58 minutes after post)

Yes it does help thanks for the advise!

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