life help: My boyfriend and i recently broke up. - Help.com

Say “I’m having a baby with your son, we are braken up, I’d like you to still be in his life, what do you think about that?”

just be honest with her about the situation at hand, be like” as you may know me and ________ arent together any more and our child will be due in the next few months…” then ask her what her what she thinks. shes a mom and she knows how to handle certain things in a more mature way, she may be able to give you really good advice, she might not. but you gotta just go in to the conversation with an open mind, and be open to the advice she gives. i hope shes a nice person at least :[

Just ask; no reason to be nice or beat around the bush. This is a big deal and you have no reason not to be blunt

im pretty sure she isnt happy with her son at all to be honest, the chances of her being on your side are alot higher than of her bing on his side. women usually have sympathy over women rather than men

killerkell_2 wrote:
Ive never met her tho, so its hard idk how she will react to it or anything so i kind of lost right now..

Your having a baby; who cares how she will react. Your the one in the middel you call the shots.

It’s her grandchild, it doesn’t matter if you broke up with your child’s father as long as he claims the baby and even if he doesn’t she may see through that when she sees the child. I understand your worried because the first time you meet the guys mom- your pregnant. These things happen and if she’s caring person it will all be okay, if she’s not, it will all be okay anyway.- and believe that it will cause it will. Take care of yourself and if you love you she’ll love you.

Ok so you know how your grandparents mean the world to you? Well I’m guessing you mean the world to them right? why? …. Because you are their granddaughter and they would do anything for you.

And assuming your ex’s mom is not a monster; she will feel the exact same way about her grandchild. And since you are the mom of her grandchild and since you call all the shots, she will at the very least do what you want in order to guaranty that she gets to have time with her grandchild.

So in the end you have nothing to loss; and she has everything to loss. So you have all the power. Since you have all the power; you don’t need to worry about what other people will think. Just tell this woman what you want and she will fall in line.

I think it is ok to open the door and call her to let her know that she is welcome to have a relationship with the baby. You don’t really need her to answer right away. Just put it out there. It is the right thing to do. It might even be ok to send her a really nice email if you are too nervous about talking on the phone.

killerkell_2 wrote:
Im not so sure about that.. The father will somehow sway her I think…im not sure but hes that kind of person.. He broke up with me and is talkin to his ex who is married about us… he’s telling her lies and just bad mouthing me completely… he cant even tell me the truth half the time.. so I’m sure that he will some how sway his own mother..

If you don’t get what you want; than screw them. They don’t have to be a part of your Childs life.

Dear _____,

I hope you don’t mind that I am emailing you about this. You might already know that ____ and I have broken up.

I wanted to reach out to you and let you know that I would love for you to be in our child’s life as his/her grandmother. My own grandparents mean the world to me and I think it is important for him to know you.

So I will welcome anytime you would like to visit him. I will be sure to add you to my facebook page so that you can see his pictures, and share the happy news when he/she is born.

Sincerely,
________

yeah you could totallly add some things to personalize it! It’s also hard because you don’t want to put her in the position of taking sides between you and her son. Make it totally about the baby

im sure once you start typing it will flow out of you and into the email. she knows you have strong emotions right now, if she didnt then she has an iq of 0

That would be a good point to put in the email too.