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I’m in a really bad spot, and I need some help!
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We’ve had bad times, and good times, but never let that stop us from getting stronger. But lately, we’ve been fighting quite a bit and it’s getting out of hand. There hasn’t been a day in the last week that we haven’t fought over something (whether it’s big or small). It doesn’t help that he has a VERY short fuse and is easy to go off on those who he gets mad at. Today, he made a remark about me being on a social networking site. It’s purpose is dating, but it has a status and such that you can set up and I have mine set as in a relationship and plainly have on my profile that I am TAKEN, and haven’t had a problem with someone not understanding that we’ll only be friends and all. I have no intentions of cheating, and wouldn’t do that to ANY ONE. But my boyfriend got mad about me being on it, and said he didn’t trust me there. I offered to just delete it, but it didn’t help and we got into an argument. We stopped talking for a while (mainly because I was going to take a shower) but he agreed he’d call me later. He didn’t call though, he just texted me and it go worse. By the time he decided he was going to bed, I was pretty furious at him because of all the events happening that day, so I just sent him back “Bye!” and the next thing he sent was “Well then… be that way, you sleazy little *****!!! Night. You two have fun.” (the last part was him insinuating I have “another boyfriend” which is accuses me of when he gets mad at me)
I just don’t know what to do. In the end, he never truly means what he is saying when he’s mad, but it is KILLING us that he has such an anger issue. I’ve talked to him about it, and he said that it’s just him and how he’s always been. I truly think that if he got help with it, it’d be better. But then there is the fact over the trusting me, and that isn’t caused by his anger. I honestly do love him, but what do I do? Should I stay by his side and try to help him through this, or do I just give up and say good bye? I don’t want to put more stress on him because he’s going through a lot right now, including having to move in with new relatives, and now he has to move schools as well and he’s losing all his closest friends that was at his old school. He admitted to me that he often feels like breaking down, but I’m his motivation for holding on.
I’m in such a bad position, and I’m so confused… please offer some advice.
EDIT: Sometimes people seem to put a lot of emphasis on the age factor and all, so I’ll mention that he is 18, and I’m 20.
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