Why do I feel like no one likes me?
My friends, people I’ve just met, even my family it just seems like they all have an ulterior motive. Its just something about the way they look at me or smile or even laugh at what I say that seems kind of, fake. It seems like they’re just being my friend for my benefit. With people I’ve just met its the same kind of thing, the things they say to me even if it’s a compliment or not, something inside just tells me “don’t believe them, don’t trust them” the way they look at me, the look in their eyes. Something inside me tells me that its all wrong, and not worth pursuing. My family, I’m not talking about my inner family, but about my cousins aunts and uncles. They all don’t even seem like they really like me, they ignore me. My cousins are the worst, they act like I’m not there, like I’m not apart of the family and their smiles just seem all fake. I never felt that way toward my family before but, things have just really gone to hell. Then again at the same time I’m feeling this, I’m questioning if they feel the same way toward me, if their wondering if I’m not sincere, if I’m faking. I feel like people are talking about me, I just feel it. I’m sad because of this, I don’t want to feel that everyone is out to get me. I don’t want to hate everyone, I don’t want to be closed off. Problem is I can’t open up I don’t trust anyone.
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It’s a vicious cycle. YOu have to break the ice.
It seems like paranoia. The people who are kind to you, you think they have an ulterior motive. The people who aren’t kind to you, and aren’t mean to you, but mostly ignore you, you think they are the worst. So if a person is kind to you or isn’t kind to you, you suspect them.
Have you ever been hurt in the past? Had someone who really did have an ulterior motive so now you have more trouble trusting people because of it?
I’d say, if you can’t trust random strangers who you talk to once and will never talk to again to not have ulterior motives, there is indeed a large problem. Because people aren’t out to get others normally, they mostly ignore people.
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But you know, with family been there, done that
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I don’t trust anybody either. If you have one good friend you can really trust you are lucky. Most people are looking out for themselves.
I know what you mean. I sure hope you are just being sensative though, it is very hard to feel emotionally normal and content when you have reason to feel liek the black sheep. I have actually had family hurt me- have you? Everyone I have every met as well as family has hurt me and I am not just being sensative or one sided… Sometimes you can’t help who is in your life- they just are. I find my family and the people in my social circle to be rude and uncourteous. Its like say and do as they please with no respect to other’s feelings…whenever I stick up for myself, or what I think is right, I get judged….it’s rediculous…what ever hppened to treat others how you want to be treated…peopel are indeed out for themselves these days..compassion is steadily disappearing in the human race.
like said- I hope that is not YOURcase though- u may just be going thru depression, or a phase of self questioning/trying to define who you are. Take a good look at yourself and who you are how you act and treat others, and if you KNOW deep inside you are a good person and someoen to be admired- then forget everyone else, you don’t need people who judge others…its hard to start over, but try to get out and meet other types of people more like yourself. Donm’t compromise your true self or happiness for anyone…
Hey there :)
i know exactly what you’re going through as I’m suffering the same problem, hence why i’m here :P
maybe a talk with someone else who’s having the same problem would help? if so, throw me an e-mail sometime - i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>
would be nice to exchange views on it and see how someone else copes xx
I feel that way a lot these days. It is not easy. I think it comes from the fear of being rejected. It has brought my attention to how much I consider the opinion of others, how I let their reactions determine for me whether I am acceptable or not. I give people (who really don’t know me at all) power to influence how I feel about myself.
I think God is trying to move me away from what society wants me to be. I’ve discovered the general public does not like it when you don’t fit the “mold” of what is comfortable for them. I’ve learned that if someone has a problem with me (for no real good reason), it is what it is…”Their problem!”
I’ve observed that often it is my own lack of “self-acceptance” that makes me think others don’t accept me. I remember one day I tripped up the stairs making an *** out of myself. I began to get frustrated with my clumsiness. Then my boyfriend piped up with a delightful chuckle and said, “That’s my girl.” When he said that to me I realized that what was likable about me was all a matter of opinion. He liked me just the way I was. It was me who didn’t like me.
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I have those feeling too.
Yes the people at my church are nice to me. but i leave and go home
alone. I play scrabble alone and usually win
I am using a computer, but i’m listening to hallowedgroundministries.com
Joseph Sir is singing the man’s voice is so soothing
i don’t know how to do that move & paste stuff howpe you can hear Joseph sing
I feel the same way. I feel as though they simply lack the ability to like me. Like they dont physically like or love me, no matter who they are. and I think of reasons why they would supposedly like me. I am totally understanding and here for you.
i hate to ask cause i feel the same.
But how do you feel about yourself
i know what you mean about church. same thing. family can be really cruel. dont let it get you down. look at the good things in your life and in you. stand on those things and dont forget about jesus.
really look for the good no matter how small it might seem
I dont mean to sound like I’m glad you feel that way but I am glad to hear that I am not alone in feeling that way. In my family everyone it seems has a friend in each other but I am alone in that. no one comes to visit me but they visit each other. I try not to care but I do. If I could figure out what is wrong I would fix it. I have tried everything and I have given up, I HAVE NOTHING LEFT TO TRY.
I have been used and abused by my family all my life. I did nothing but try harder to please them and give them everything I could; do anything they ask me to do. This has done nothing but hurt me because they were never grateful, only criticized me because I wasn’t giving enough; I didn’t meet their standards. They told me they loved me then beat me and took from me and told me that was love. Deep inside I must have internalized this because now even when I do my best, I beat myself up And criticize myself to the point that I don’t even want to try anymore. This has trickled into EVERY relationship I have ever had. I now don’t trust anyone, ESPECIALLY if they say they love me. I don’t believe it. It’s a constant struggle to keep myself from bringing me down, but now I notice the pattern in the long string of abusive relationships I have had. I bend over backwards, and I internalize the feeling of inadequacy that comes with letting someone who says they love you abuse you. Then one day I realize I can’t take anymore, and I am disrespecting myself by staying, so I just leave. I leave. I walk away. I do this to everyone now. Even my closest friends. I feel like I have been hurt, so I walk off and abandon my friends just like I have been Abandoned all of my life. I can’t go on living like I will have to pick up and leave at any moment. Is it my friends? Do I choose people who treat me like **** because that’s just what I know? Or have I just turned into a selfish bastard who doesn’t believe the words “I love you”? When I look at myself through the eyes of God, I know I am good, and I feel loved and within myself I feel whole. It’s when I try to get close to someone that if feels like I can’t trust them to really love me because everyone else just takes advantage of the fact that I would give them the shirt off my back. Why can’t I just find real love with another person?
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