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What do I do about my OCD boyfriend?
My boyfriend is on- and off-again with Prozac for OCD and refuses to see a therapist. He actually claims to have a good one, but he makes excuses not to see him as of late. He has recently been going through a stressful period with school and has not taken his medicine, so he’s been horribly irritable and stressed–he says that this irritability/anger is the main manifestation of his OCD.
We got into a fight a couple days ago in which he verbally bashed me, calling me melodramatic, selfish, lacking situational awareness, clingy, and he mocked me while I was crying.
-he calls me “melodramatic” for EVERYTHING I react to.
-I was “selfish” at the time for eating half a pizza that was split directly between me and him (as in, I left HALF for him lol).
-I “completely lacked situational awareness” because I could not predict that he was taking the anger he had for his roommate out on me via the pizza thing
-and I was “clingy” because I called him earlier and asked when we could hang out.
Fights like this have occurred several other times but this was by far the worst. He made me leave his house while I was crying–again, he’s done this before, but it was so bad. It was almost like he wanted to see me suffer.
Of course, later that night we (amazingly enough) made up and he apologized for everything, saying that he “didn’t really mean the stuff he said”. Of course, before we were reasonably settled, he literally tried so hard to break up with me, saying how mad he is at himself for hurting me so much, how I will find someone better…etc. The whole night was a nightmare.
Anyway, He HATES being told to take his medicine but I politely suggested that he go back to taking it. It is not that he is bad all the time, I just feel that right now is a good time for him to be on it as he is very stressed with school and money.
The thing is, I am such a patient person, I want to be with him still, but…everyone I speak to doesn’t seem to understand that he cannot help his actions, that he is just using it as an excuse to “be an *******”. I think the only thing he’s doing wrong is not taking his medicine when he is supposed to. I feel that if he takes his medicine, he can function more than fine in a relationship. There is sooo much good that comes from being with him, he is an amazing individual.
Will I be able to make this work, though? I love this man, but am I crazy for putting up with this? What am I to do next?……..I have been away for Thanksgiving break and am giving him his space, thinking maybe his anxiety will lessen…but who knows…
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