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hi, i’m nearly 15 i’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months nearly, and we’re really close.

we’re both virgins and we’ve talked about sex a lot, and have decided that it’s a possibility.
we’ve done other stuff, but i don’t know whether it’s morally right to do it now, or should we wait till he’s 16? he’s only 4 months older than me, but he’s my bestfriend too.
i really like him, and i know for sure he’s a genuine guy.

i want to know, do you think it really makes your relationship even stronger? is it worth it?

thank you. :)

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hollybond offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (4 minutes after post)

All i know is that when i lost my virginity i knew in my head that i was 100% ready and if i had any doubts at all or had to question it then i would not have done it at that time.. i was 17 and really you should both wait till your 16, but asking us is not the way as i said only you will know when your totally ready!

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mumstheword offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 36 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Wait until you are 16 or whatever the age of consent is for your country. That way you won’t risk getting him into trouble with the law.

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daleyniko offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (12 minutes after post)

Well lets start off with you. Do you feel ready to take on more responsiblity? Do you and your boyfriend feel that it’s time? Do you know any possible consequences?

Those were just some general questions about this whole situation of yours. Sex is a way to connect with each other. Literaly and spiritually. Also I must warn you that after sex, you will have this burden on you forever. It’s like an everlasting bond that goes beyond anything and can’t be broken.

The actual decision is all on you, but if you feel you want to have sex now, then do.

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pro87mile offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Take your time…..If he’s your best friend…he’ll stay with u till ur maturity…also…So..first develope understanding..and analyse urself…If u r 100% ready or not…..It can happen after 16…at anytime..need not to bother…Just enjoy ur life…..

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2 years, 6 months ago (29 minutes after post)

do it when you both feel ready. i lost my virginity to a friend thats 18 (im only 15) we were only friends and i wasnt looking for that and than one day it just happened, and i wasnt ready for it, and he didnt wear a condom and it was really stressful and now we dont talk. so the best thing to do is make sure your both ready

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fraser.brown offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (37 minutes after post)

I think you should wait. If you’re in love you can wait anyway. You want it to be fun and exciting, not filled with worry.

Plus, I don’t want to scare you but the risk of lots of sexual illnesses increases the younger you lose your virginity (cervical issues including cancer). So it’s best to wait as long as you possibly can!

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linuxya offline Verified User (6 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (43 minutes after post)

Don’t worry about the morality.

Instead, think about this. Are you prepared for the consequences?

- what if you get pregnant? you need to be prepared to be a mom the minute you start having sex… at your age, how would you feel about that?

- how do you feel about getting an abortion?

- how do you feel about carrying a baby to full term and having a child adopted?

- how do you feel about the screaming and crying and demands of babies?

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