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How to get closer to someone?

Hi,
There is a friend of mine (girl, I’m a boy), I don’t know… but I think I’m starting to really like her.

Sometime I have difficulty to see the signs and sometime I’m just afraid to see signs where there is nothing.
There is some signs I noticed with her that maybe might mean she like me too, but it might as well don’t mean anything and sometime when we see each other I don’t see anything and i feel like I just miss, screwed everything.

But the thing is that we are good friend but not very close one, how could I get closer to her.
And since I’m thinking about her like that, when I end up alone with her I’m shy and don’t know what to say.

Thank you

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Easytime offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (4 minutes after post)

You do not have to say anything to indicate that you like her… as such. You could you just do not have to….

May I suggest a little lie? Find a reason to ask her for a coffee if you are sort of friends. Ask for advice on something you really need advice on. If she is interested she will probably see right through to the real reason that you want to go for a coffee/drink. If not then just get the advice you need and you have not had to escape from your shyness. In fact be honest and when you ask her for a coffee tell her you are shy and find it difficult asking advice. If she is a nice girl she will understand and you have been totally honest all the way through.

Be careful though. If the coffee goes well and it does not lead to anything immediate then you are going to have to say something at some point to let her know or you will become a full on friend.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (1 hour, 49 minutes after post)

my problem is how do i get a girl that i like if we are to seperated by school sections

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2 years, 5 months ago (7 hours, 25 minutes after post)

To back up what carterc494 said, it does work.

Most girls will get the point when you ask them for advice - and girls love giving advice.

It’s a win-win situation really - she will see that you appreciate who she is as a person (big thing these days since girls usually want to be appreciated not just for body), and also, you’ll get a different perspective on your question. And if she views you just as a friend, maybe that might tip the scales in your favor.

And as for being separated by school sections, I’m not sure. Good luck though.

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1 year, 11 months ago (6 months, 4 weeks after post)

Last friday I was with 2 of my friends, a couple that know that girl too, and she started to ask me question about my loves, how it was going, if I have someone I’m thinking about…

And started to talk about that girl and said that she talked with one of our other friend and they both think we would be good together. And ask me if there was something between me and her, I said no because ther is not (hope there was more).

I found that funny.

Sometime when I see her I still feel there is something but sometime I don’t.
But I haven’t see any of the signs I was talking about that make me thing she would like me too, for a long time.

I haven’t try the tips, I would not know how to act or say.

(hope my english and sentence are not to bad on this … lol)

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