Family help: Twin brothers wife died. - Help.com

Please help me understand a little more about this. Im going to play devils advocate for a moment. First, Kidney cancer is going to produce visual physical effects on whoever gets diagnosed with it. The treatment is also going to have its toll on the body. Chemotherapy will cause one to loose thier hair. The person will also be prescibed meds specifically for this kind of cancer.

Second, If my wife was diagnosed with kidney cancer, I would be with her at her doctors appointments giving support.

How could your brother not have known she wasnt sick? Did he ever talk to a doctor about his wife? Go to California to give her support? How about go to the pharmacy to get her some meds?

I aplogize if I offended. It wasnt my intent. Thats why I asked for you to help me understand a little more.

I know that different people have different types of relationships, Im not saying it was wrong of him. It just sounds odd to me.

Do you and your brother live close together?

Thats great to hear! Wounds this deep will take time to heal. But being in a loving home should help aide that process.

As twins, I know the two of you share a much tighter bond than others can understand. I want to say to be strong for your brother. But I feel that I dont truly understand your bond to him. If things start to go extremely bad for him, let him know that there isnt any shame in seeking profesional help.

I wish your brother all the best in the future. Obviously he has a big heart and now it has been torn apart because of this woman. I understand that it is hard but just remind your brother that he is still very young and he will find happiness again in his life, dont give up.

consider her death GOD’s way of getting your brother out from a bad relationship. that’s if you believe in GOD. anyways, if she was cheating, how’d he find out? and a million dollars in travel? i highly doubt it-unless she had a gambling problem. Credit card debt? if the card/s were on her name–he can fight it, that’s if he’s being held accountable for the debt.

Diesel1, i am so sorry to hear what has happened to your brother. I think what kay.s said is true, its GOD’s way of helping him out. She was a deciever and she deserved what has happened to her. He would find love again, if he is that kind of guy that is so trusting and open, he should take his time in settling down again. Let him enjoy the single life, pay off the debts, and then start looking for a new girl! Tell him too, if he can’t find one up there, come down to Trinidad, there are a lot af single girls that would love to meet him.
Good Luck, and GOD’s richest blessings, keep us up-to-date with the situation.

Wow, that is a horrible situation. I’m sooo sorry! I do somewhat agree with other’s comments, saying that maybe it was a good thing, since she was cheating. Something good always comes out of bad things, and we may not see it now, but it all happens for a reason. I can understand how this would be bringing you down, and since you and your brother share that special bond that no one else does, that means you need to be all that more strong for him, because he needs it. Always be there for him, and everything will be ok..you seem like a nice guy, so don’t give up!! Good luck..sorry if I couldn’t be of any more help.

This is such a very sad situation and really don’t know what to say that can help your brother. I have been cheated on and never found out until the other girl was pregnant with my boyfriends child. I do know how it feels to be hurt and losing trust in everyone around you but not like this. Always be there for him and keep him strong and not to lose trust; there is still some GOOD girls left and this may be the Good that comes from every bad situation and there is a reason for everything. Keep your chin up and let me know what happens. If you still need to talk, we are still here to listen.Good Luck, best of wishes for your brother and you and your family, keep that closeness.

hey tell your brother don’t feel bad ! girls like that give us good girls a bad image ! i was cheated on like 5 times by my x and i aways took him back, i was in love. it happens to the best of us trust me it’s part of life but now we have to be smarter and if we see someone we’re into check them out first one thing they do that remind us of our x we have to say NEXT ! i am here if you need to talk ok

I am very sorry for your family’s loss. It is always difficult to deal with the death of a family member, but then to find out the deception involved is just a crushing blow. I know that in time, the wounds will heal. It is very difficult and I wish I could say more. I hope your brother is recovering from his grief. The debt she left him with should be able to be contested. Take care.

I was married for 19 years, taking my x back time after time. He was constintly cheating on me. And once my brother-in-law died on a motorcycle something clicked and it just wasn’t worth putting up with the pain anymore. He will find the strenght to go on but it will always be with him.