:)
You know how it is… we always want what we cant have and when we do get it we realize it isnt exactly what we wanted… and so the cycle repeats itself :P
I guess you guys expect too much from a relationship between each other… so when it does happen… it isnt good enough… (just one way of looking at it)
The prob with good relationships is that they are all good, and different so you cant say which is better… and when they are over normally we forget either the good or bad… so we have a skewed opinion…
Guess u and Vince have had long talks bout this…
The only quiestion is what do you guys like to see of each oter in the long term… like 5-10 years down the line?
it sounds like what you really need to ask yourself is who you really want to be there in the long run and who will make you happy. this sounds complicated. maybe ask your boyfriend what he wants for your relationship and how he wants it to progress. do want to be serious? or maybe u should talk to your friend how he feels about you. i think you will know what to do. just follow your heart!
BTW, how is everything else coming along?
Guessing its the end of the school sem…
Hows that working out for u?
ik if it helps but i hav no one to talk to either i mean i did the exact think exect there was this boy named brandon we met on myspace n were rlly good friends but he had a gf but we still talked.. i loved him more than a bf till we lost tuch i kept talking to him for about 6 months on the phone nvr seen him in person still havnt but then time passed n i went through a couple boyfriends, but then he messaged me on myspace for my cell # so i gav it to him we started txting n told him how i was ina relation ship so for the first time he was the one that had to wait then wen me n my bf broke up n i almost gave up n comitted suiside but i decided not to bc i know how hurt ppl wuld b also me n brandon r fine but he hasnt asked yet but ive nvr cheated bc its wrong n i wuld b heart broken if i foundout my bf had cheated on my so i wuld hav to dump my bf for the next guy then it turned into the next guy then the next it nvr ended so right now im letting the one i love less go n staying wit brandon my lifes on hold right now idk wat will happen
Ok here is the thing I know Vince loves me he tells me all the time, when we talk he calls me babe, and treats me like his girl and even tho it’s so wrong I can’t help but I smile. My boyfriend is perfect he has been the only guy to stick around this long besides Vince and he wants to propose one day we are pretty serious, and I can see myself with either one. I honestly don’t want to change my relationship, but I feel like Vince is my back up guy which is sooo wrong, and I can’t help but feel possesive about him and I miss him like crazy and he makes my emotions insane!
R.A.M wrote:
BTW, how is everything else coming along?
Guessing its the end of the school sem…
Hows that working out for u?
school is driving me crazy! lol working on finals which stress me the hell out…
sometimes guys dont understand ive had to let so many guys gobrandon is my back up guy to i tell him everything but c bc i always leave my bf for sum1 els im scared to date brandon bc i know evenchaly ill leave him to n i want to stay with him forever hes the depest relationship ive been in even tho were not dating….
hollisterbabe122 wrote:
sometimes guys dont understand ive had to let so many guys gobrandon is my back up guy to i tell him everything but c bc i always leave my bf for sum1 els im scared to date brandon bc i know evenchaly ill leave him to n i want to stay with him forever hes the depest relationship ive been in even tho were not dating….
then why would you leave him?
:)
Its like you want to have your cake and eat it too…
I guess Im the same too :P
Well, the simplest thing will be to let Vince go…
But, guessing thats not totally possible…
The next thing is to set proper boundaries, explain exactly how you feel to him and let him be part of the decision on what to do for the future…
BTW, where is your BF in all of this?
R.A.M wrote:
:)
Its like you want to have your cake and eat it too…
I guess Im the same too :P
Well, the simplest thing will be to let Vince go…
But, guessing thats not totally possible…
The next thing is to set proper boundaries, explain exactly how you feel to him and let him be part of the decision on what to do for the future…
BTW, where is your BF in all of this?
I try to let Vince go I even told him I need to stay away from him but I can’t and he said he feels the same, me and him are constant circles. My bf knows we are close and knows a bit of our history, i always try to be clear about vince and i don’t ever want a man to come in my life and tell me I cant talk to vince or blah blah so I put my foot down and told my bf “we are close and I’m not going to stop talking to him even if you feel uncomfortable about it, i understand where u r coming from but hes like my best friend” which he really is, this is soo hard I just want to not feel this way….
Its tough…
U know in the long run someone or more than one is going to get hurt… and a good chance one of them will be you…
As you said guess Vince and you are both playing the keeping the options open game… just in case!
When you keep doors open, the problem is that you dont knotice the other doors which are opening as well…
One thing bout love though its a leap of faith… no looking back… its also lots of other things… like patient, kind, understanding, truthful…
Thing is to figure out which of your relationsips incorporate more of this and the other thing is forgetting bout yourself and putting the others first!
Try and understand where they are coming from and doing what is best for all of youll…
idk things happen i might think sumones better ina way or wat if i get board wit him irdk im scared tho i love him till death
R.A.M wrote:
Its tough…
U know in the long run someone or more than one is going to get hurt… and a good chance one of them will be you…
As you said guess Vince and you are both playing the keeping the options open game… just in case!
When you keep doors open, the problem is that you dont knotice the other doors which are opening as well…
One thing bout love though its a leap of faith… no looking back… its also lots of other things… like patient, kind, understanding, truthful…
Thing is to figure out which of your relationsips incorporate more of this and the other thing is forgetting bout yourself and putting the others first!
Try and understand where they are coming from and doing what is best for all of youll…
so true, man its so hard to the right thing lol
hollisterbabe122 wrote:
idk things happen i might think sumones better ina way or wat if i get board wit him irdk im scared tho i love him till death
if you love him to death then you won’t get bored…
lol ill try then but only if u do 2 k
hollisterbabe122 wrote:
lol ill try then but only if u do 2 k
lol good! but I can’t!! I must stay loyal to my boyfriend that I love although I want to stray!!!
FiestyPrettyGirlL0st wrote:
lol good! but I can’t!! I must stay loyal to my boyfriend that I love although I want to stray!!!
Life is full of temptations…
The main thing is to think long term… and not forget why you are doing what your doing in the first place…
BTW, have you talked bout long term plans and ambitions with everyone?
I mean not only relationship wise… but work wise goals in life… everything…
How does it all align?
R.A.M wrote:
FiestyPrettyGirlL0st wrote:
lol good! but I can’t!! I must stay loyal to my boyfriend that I love although I want to stray!!!
Life is full of temptations…
The main thing is to think long term… and not forget why you are doing what your doing in the first place…
BTW, have you talked bout long term plans and ambitions with everyone?
I mean not only relationship wise… but work wise goals in life… everything…
How does it all align?
it all aligns well i have many black up plans, my boyfriend fits in perfectly but i can also go on without him just fine
Thats great!
So, why is there a problem in the first place?
Things look great with ur BF…
In someways many would love to be in your shoes… (of course once they r in it… its a diff story :P )
Try focusing on the positives…
You got to great guys who you mean the world to and vice versa…
BTW, does Vince feel he would be OK to remain friends forever or does he think he eventually will want more and make a mess of things?
R.A.M wrote:
Thats great!
So, why is there a problem in the first place?
Things look great with ur BF…
In someways many would love to be in your shoes… (of course once they r in it… its a diff story :P )
Try focusing on the positives…
You got to great guys who you mean the world to and vice versa…
BTW, does Vince feel he would be OK to remain friends forever or does he think he eventually will want more and make a mess of things?
Vince is great…*sighs* lol he’s fine with being my friend we are best friends when I have problems with my bf he actually tries to comfort me and not make it worse, but he also makes it clear that he loves me and wants me for himself but we both learn to conform
Small Q…
Do in any way, do you feel like your leading Vince on?
Does he know that as long as your with your present BF he has no chance… and the chances of breaking up r 0…
R.A.M wrote:
Small Q…
Do in any way, do you feel like your leading Vince on?
Does he know that as long as your with your present BF he has no chance… and the chances of breaking up r 0…
ummm dang…I feel like I am selfish when I demand things from him, but he doesn’t complain he’s my enabler lol
He knows I’m not leaving my bf he’s kind of in the same place as me and he knows I love him so he doesn’t feel led on..
Nah!
Your not being selfish…
Its just that, we guys really think we have a chance unless the girl is down right mean to us… and even then sometimes we think we still do :P
In some ways its just a dissalusion… cant help it :P
Guess u have made yourself crystal clear…
R.A.M wrote:
Nah!
Your not being selfish…
Its just that, we guys really think we have a chance unless the girl is down right mean to us… and even then sometimes we think we still do :P
In some ways its just a dissalusion… cant help it :P
Guess u have made yourself crystal clear…
yea but we can’t stop feeling the way we do, tell me how is it possible to be madly in love with someone but not be able to shake someone off?!
FiestyPrettyGirlL0st wrote:
yea but we can’t stop feeling the way we do, tell me how is it possible to be madly in love with someone but not be able to shake someone off?!
:)
LOL!
Who dosent want everyone to think the world of them and to have all the options possible?
Its human nature!
Thing is to understand that… but realize that these actions arent in the best interest to your relationship, you and Vince… Somewhere down the line theres a good chance people are going to get hurt!
So, the only thing is to let all the parties involved know all the facts asyou see them and if things take a turn for the worse atleast everyone understands everything and can work things out…
R.A.M
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