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My mom favors my brother but won’t admit it.
I’m not just making this up– he got a car, an eight thousand dollar piano, he ALWAYS gets to sit in the front, and he ALWAYS picks where we eat lunch. When I mention these things to my mom, she just mentions things that are apparently equal that’s she’s done for me. Like taking care of me when I’m sick. Which basically was being gone half the day, coming home, and watching TV with my brother. I understand that my brother is much more interesting, and much more funny but I don’t think that my mom should show so much favoritism. Also, I improved my grades from FAILING last year to all A’s and B’s this year, and she still doesn’t believe me when I say I’m working hard. She says “If you were really working hard you wouldn’t be playing tennis/watching TV/texting your friends” SHE APPRECIATES NOTHING. Whenever I talk about her I cry and I just don’t know what to do in this situation :/ help?
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Older kids are usually more mature and parents trust them more for some reason…the older kids usually favor the parents…….it’s sad at times but yea. Im the youngest of the family and I feel like my parents don’t trust me or that Im not capable of many things……I get mad and sad at time…..:(
What your mom is doing is wrong.. If you bring it to her attention she should rectify it….Tell her it hurts when she does this
Hello I have found a link that you can read for yourself, and maybe would like to send it to your mothers email address so she can read it too.
my mum is like that with my younger brother, he gets food first, he is the smartest, he never does household chores.
theres nothing i can do about it so i let it go, then stop doing stuff so they notice me, im past it now, i want to move out and have my own life, things wont change. just gotta work hard for yourself
I can’t move out, and really love my mom, and I’m wondering if there’s any way to make my brother and myself seem equal in her eyes.
I totally understand what you mean. I have an older brother who is near perfect in my mother’s eyes. There’s really nothing that you can do about it, except actually tell your mom.
Just say that for once YOU want to pick where to eat, or for once YOU want to get something special. If she’s like “What? Why?” then just tell your mother what your brother has gotten, and why you haven’t had even half.
It’s mean, and very petty, but these situations need a strong mind, and a whiny voice.
Hang in there. :)
First of all, realize a lot of people feel that way, and some of them claim it when they aren’t right. It may help you if you can get over your frustration and be neutral for a bit, write up a list of what each of you has received, and then think about it.
But as I see it, you are the luckier one. You are learning how to take care of yourself and when neither of you has your mother anymore, do you think it will be better for him when he has not had enough challenges to get stronger, or you when you have gone from failing to good grades and are continuing to work to do your best?
all mothers have thee favorite it somthing you have to get used to m8 good luck just go with the flow :))
I had a big argument wih my mother,she always favours my eldest brother. Now she doesn t even call. How can a mother treat her children like that I am really frustrated by her. I wish I was treated equal.
I understand, You can’t do much but confront her and tell her how you feel. I tried it and really the only thing that changed is how much time my brother has on the internet. You have to say something because one day you will regret not saying anything.
My mom is like that with my older 15 year old brother and I am 12. I hate it because my parents are turning our basement into their room and my brother gets their old huge room with two closets. And the COMPLETELY UNFAIR part is that my mom said that I could have their old room. Then she just changed her mind, and my brother didn’t even ask for the room, and my mom just said he can have it when they move downstairs!!! And I have to stay in my tiny room, and since I am a girl and have lots of clothes, I should be able to have the room with two closets. But oh no, my mom won’t let me have two closets cuz my brother needs a place to keep all of his air soft guns!!!!! Isn’t that so unfair?!?!?!?! He is going to use two closets for air soft guns!!!! It just pisses me off!!!! He doesn’t even have a lot of clothes to put in drawers. I used to get horse lessons and I worked really hard at them but then my brother got an iPhone for no reason at all and my mom made me quite horse lessons just so she could pay for my brothers iPhone! It broke my heart so bad because she knew I loved horses and my lessons but apparently my brother needs an iPhone more;(;(;(;(
My mom treats my brother so much better then me I was at home sick throwing up and unable to move and she still went over to my brothers for the day,,, for my brothers 16 birthday she baught him a moped and she won’t buy me one she won’t Evan let me have a party, my mom pays my brothers morgage yet she can’t aford to buy me new cloths so I’m only 16 and working while my 27 year old brother sits on his but all day claiming benafits!! Ohh yeh then the other day she broke her phone so she stole my brand new phone and changed the pass code so I am unable to do any thing!!
my mom is just like that ,but i told her about it and now we are treated equally. Well now im the fave
my is the same.
My brother was like the perfct kid and even though I have never gotten in any type of trouble, my mom sees me as trhe black sheep. my brother as little was a trouble maker so she had to pay more attention to him, then he got over that and started getting good grades, just like me, but my mom payed more attention to him. now we are both in college, I pay all of my tuition with my own money. my parents pay for my brother’s tuition for the first two years, full time. and now that he has one year left he decided to quit college. my mom is going crazy but still prefers him. when she talks about us, she talks about him and the perfect child and when someone asks about me, she tells them and then changes the subject back to him. of course she told me not to tell anyone that my brother is quitting college, so basically he is still the perfect kid on everyone’s eye. I wrote my brother a letter telling him what i thought and also sent it to my parents. my mom got furious and started blaming me! my brother doesn’t give a **** about our family but still is the fav.
the way i see it is that he is the older kid, so of course is my mom’s fav beause she learned how to be a mother with him, kind of like the first love….so i’m the second, nothing new….I have accepted it, and i know it’s true. but i try not to care and just do my life and do the best for me and only for me.
I hate when my uncle does this. Like yesterday my brother and his friend were going to 7 11 i wanted to go too but my uncle said no. Then I walked upstairs to my brothers room knocked and walked in. He was like “did i say come in? Get out and knock!” I was like “um no.” So he threw his slurpee at me. I went and told my uncle and hey said that i had dumped the slurpee on myself to make my bro look bad! I said “that is soooo unfair! You never beljve me!” And he were lke “nope never!” And laughed! I HATE HIM!!!
My prents are the same way with me and my brother he’s 4 years old then me and he’s a high school drop out he doesn’t work and he’s 28 and I’m 24 with two jobs. Ever since we was little they always favorite him still today they buy him clothes and pay for his vacations when I need help to with my bill they give me a hard time and just yell at me I’m trying so hard to move out but they are always asking for money I do give them rent money I give them 190 every week and I’m paying for collage I show them my grades and they are like whatever. My brother fights with them and calls them bad names and they don’t do anything but if they fight with me and I answer back my saying oh my god my moms like are you yelling at me are you coursing at me I never once course at my parents but they treat me like **** she try’s to hit me but to tell you the truth she puts no fear in my heart at all.. She also calls me names like *****, stupid,fat mind you i weigh 120 pounds. She always said that its my fault that she gain weight when she was pregnant with me. I’m really trying to move before this summer I hope I can do it.
I feel like that everytime i want to tell her something she is always bussy i tell her that she don’t have time for me and all she say is,”O whoah you are jelouse”,so what i do is go to my bff house and believe me stay there ontill i want how i am bigger i could do my dision but i still love my mom .help
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