Thought help: i dont know what to do anymore - Help.com

First of all, there’s a reason he’s your ex…

And how would you describe your friendships? A lot of caring and kindness that people try to get out of romantic relationships actually come better from friendships. In fact, I recommend people not have a girlfriend or boyfriend or similar unless they already have good friendships and don’t need to have a romantic relationship.

Best thing you can do is try to keep yourself busy and not text him! That part’s important. If he’s still with “the new girl” then he has made his decision, just go on with your life and try to find somebody new.

First: does “she” know that you can read her FB page? ‘Just wondering if she put that statement in there for your benefit … whether or not it’s true.

Second: if he’s not physically with you, he’s not “with” you … he’s still wavering.

Third: try remembering all of the reasons for why it didn’t work out the first time around … ‘might help a bit to toss some of those facts/memories into your current thought processes - in other words, you might not feel as devastated if you look at the relationship you guys had more objectively.

And, you have friends to talk to to try to help you? Or no?

Well. You made the first mistake by texting him and telling him you still love him.
He’s your ex, he’s with someone else. It’s time for YOU to drop him out of your life and walk away. Be the bigger person here and move on.

You may still love him, but he clearly does not love you if he IS with someone else. He stated he “loves” you too, but he doesn’t show it. You two broke it off for a reason, it didn’t work out for either or both of you so what do you think getting back will achieve? It’ll fall into the same pattern and it’ll be a vicious cycle.

You’re only asking for more sorrow and agony when you try and get him back. It’s time to focus on something else and make YOURSELF happy without the thought of your ex. This is your life, and your own emotions that you control and anything he does or is doing should not affect you. If it kills you to think about them together, then think about something else. Not of reuniting with your ex because chances are, it will not happen. I’m not trying to rain on your parade, or trying to bring in negativity, I’m being realistic.

Think about it, do you still love him if he’s with someone else and if he lied to you saying that he still loves you but is still with another person? DO you want to BE with someone like that? I think you’ve set your mind into a loop, and your thoughts are only focused on the good and not on the bad. You focus so much on the greatness of the past and how amazing the two of you WERE, that you are completely blind sided about the present.

I was in the same position as you are and trust me, it was hell but you need to have a different mind set. It’s time to move on.

JL’s Girl wrote:
it didnt work out coz i couildnt handle the distance, and hes not physically with me coz of it

If you couldn’t handle the distance then … what has changed that would enable you to handle the distance now?

You need to move on and he sounds like he is a player, he wants his cake and eat it too. You can find someone closer to you who is truthful. There isn’t a shortage of single males, so forget him and in time you will feel beyyer and find someone better.

That must be hard, but it would be really rough trying work hard distance. and i agree with aries

Aries wrote:

JL’s Girl wrote:
it didnt work out coz i couildnt handle the distance, and hes not physically with me coz of it

If you couldn’t handle the distance then … what has changed that would enable you to handle the distance now?

better*

what?

sarcasticool wrote:
better*

carlybroken wrote:
what?

He was correcting his spelling when he wrote “beyyer”

Thank you DarkSnow

when did he write that?

i found it!

carlybroken wrote:
when did he write that?

In my original post!

carlybroken wrote:
i found it!

Hehe. ^^

(sigh)