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my boyfriend that i have been dating for almost a year doesn’t pay for me.

i know this might sound weird and/or superficial but i see all my other friends getting taken care of by their boyfriends and i just want the same treatment! it would be nice if he would just once in awhile pick up the tab when we go to dinner, or even get my movie ticket! it is sometimes embarrassing when we go out to eat and the bill comes, when the waitress comes to pick up the check and sees both our credit cards she just gives me a sad look. for christmas he set a price limit for our gifts, i wanted something over the price, and he made me pay the difference! my boyfriend is nice, and he usually makes me happy, but this is really starting to bother me! it’s gotten so bad that i won’t go out with him where i know money will be spent, i’ll just make up excuses. please help!!!

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hotsox42 offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
Fort Collins, CO, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (9 minutes after post)

So, your problem is that he doesn’t pay for you, or that he makes you pay for most everything?

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Shayna offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (13 minutes after post)

No offence, but your boyfriend is kinda cheep :P

It is common curtousy to pay when you are the one inviting someone on a date, but inviting someone and then telling them to pay for themselves? That is very rude.

The Christmas thing is down right ridiculous.

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murrowgu offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (28 minutes after post)

you gotta keep it …..equal
wheni go out with my sweetheart she pays and i pay half and half

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icddpp offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 year, 5 months after post)

I’m having the same problem with my boyfriend. Well, we dont put price limits on gifts…usually I end up spending more.
I dont know how to tell him it would be nice if he offered to pay once in while without sounding materialistic :(

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beautifulgirll2 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (1 year, 10 months after post)

i have the same problem! it’s so awkward when we go places that i try to avoid going anywhere that involves money. this tends to make the relationship weird and boring. plus, when all my friends want to go on double or triple dates i always decline because their boyfriends pay for them and it’s embarrassing. even my friend’s EX boyfriend pays for her when they go out!

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AJohnson031 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 year, 11 months after post)

I am having the same problem and I don’t know how to tell my boyfriend. Except my boyfriend didn’t get me anything for christmas because he said it got stolen. He works but doesn’t pay rent or buy grocerys. What is he spending his money on because it’s obviously not me :(

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