marriage help: I want to leave my husband but he dosent leave the house. - Help.com

Are you in the US? If so, please give your general location (nearest city?) so I can search for some resources for you.

I am so glad that you have come on here to talk, please be careful that he is not able to trace this conversation… Kitty is very good at finding help I am happy to see she is already helping you.
Please be calm and be very careful to not let him find any sign that you are going to leave. Waiting to here where you are so I might be of some too..
Sending you hugs
Love Agape

my heart really goes out to you … I hope you get the help that you need .. I’ll be keeping my eye on your post .. may god bless you …

I’ll be back on Thursday. Leave your nearest city and I will gather some information for you and leave it here for you to find.

You are not alone. :)

I feel so releived to read your replies.Thank u all.
I stay in Wayne, PA. we moved here before 3 months due to my job.before we were in DE. my husband already had a charge of physical abuse in court of DE which recently got dismissed as i did not say anything against him. i don’t want to take any revenge. i only want my kid.i don’t even want any child support from him. i just want him to leave us alone. although he never loved me but loved him from bottom of my heart. i don’t have any feelings for him now though. he will bring our kid in fight and will convince me every time that i should not think of separation because of our kid. but i cant take it any more. moreover i don’t want my kid to see mom and dad fighting on every small things. i want to know can i move out with my kid as he will never leave me.

Welcome back. :)

Give me a little time. I’ll be searching for resources for you. Don’t worry. You’ll have your child with you.

Can I ask how old you are? I’m asking because some programs have an age limit. Thanks. :)

http://www.dapdc.org/home.html

Contact them. They will help you to leave with your child and they will provide you with the resources you need. You’ll be okay. Stay strong! :)

Don’t leave any trace on your computer. Delete your history. http://www.dapdc.org/safety.html

I am 30 yr old. presently i am living in PA. right now i am just looking for a room sharing basis appartment where i can shift temporarily. once this dispute will be resolved i will return to my appt. is it a good idea?

mg2706 wrote:
I am 30 yr old. presently i am living in PA. right now i am just looking for a room sharing basis appartment where i can shift temporarily. once this dispute will be resolved i will return to my appt. is it a good idea?

mg2706 wrote:
right now i am just looking for a room sharing basis appartment where i can shift temporarily

What does this mean? You want to SHIFT? What is that? You want to move away from him temporarily and then move back again? After WHAT dispute is resolved? You didn’t testify against him in DE and you allowed it all to drop, so what are you talking about? Why would you want to return? Can you answer any of this?

Now I suspect that there is more going on here than you are telling us. You have the link to resources. They are there to help you and your child for up to 2 years with everything; transitional housing, daycare, job training, etc. They can put you in contact with the proper resources for your immigration concerns as well. It’s up to you now.

Actually my husband will move out soon. so i was thinking until he moves out i can go out and stay on room sharing basis. but now he said i don’t need to that. he will move out in next 15 days. if he doesn’t move out then i will have to go. i don’t want to harm him in any way. i still love him. i just want to be separated from him. i will never go back to him. this is one thing for sure. please let me know about the resources in case my husband creates any trouble for me. can i use the resources without harming my husband? because for now i don’t want to put him in any trouble.

kitten_ciao wrote:
http://www.dapdc.org/home.html

Contact them. They will help you to leave with your child and they will provide you with the resources you need.

I don’t know the real story. I only know what you have told us and there seems to be a lot missing. Your original post said he won’t leave the house. Now you tell us that he is moving out in a few weeks.

If you want answers to your questions, use the link I provided for you.

Good luck to you. :)

can u plz tell me how can i file my own Green card? or do i have to consult any immigration attorney. i really don’t have any money for attorney. my husband is really getting selfish. he has decided to go back to his country. we don’t have our Green card yet. if i dont have Green card i cannot work or legally stay in usa. i dont want to go back to him. i will better die then.

Is this the real problem? Your husband wants to go ‘home’ and you want to stay in the US with your child?

What is your native country? I’ll search for info.

no that is not the main problem. he actually needs a puppet which i refused to be. now he is blackmailing me that if i leave him then he will go back to india. we are form india. and as GC is filled by him 5 yrs back, will get canceled. we are expecting our GC next year. life is real hell for me. i dont want to go back india because if i go there he will take my child from me. he can do that. he have few frds and relatives in police. he will make my life miserable. i don’t know what will i have to do if he goes back to India.

is there anyway that i can receive my GC early. he has already filled the GC. we are expecting it next year. if that is possible, that will the best blessing of god to me. at least once in life i will be relieved.

Okay. Thank you. Let me check.

https://egov.uscis.gov/crisgwi/go?act…

I suggest that you contact them to find out the status of the GC application. I’m not an immigration attorney and I don’t know the details of your situation. For instance, was your child born here?

Contact them and they can answer any questions you may have about how to separate your status from your husbands and how to stay if he does not.

I hope this helps you. Good luck to you. :)

My son is born in usa. presently i am on EAD (Employment Authorization Doc)
Thank you for all your help and concern. the person for whom i did so much and is still thinking good abt him wants to just put me in trouble. on the other hand god is making people like you who don’t even know me but still ready to help. may you have a hppy and long life.

Great! Your son is a citizen here. :) That should help you along in your quest. It seems that you want to ‘hide’ yourself/son so your husband can’t force you to return to India or take your son back to India without you.

The Immigration Services link I gave you should be the only resource you need to find your answers. They can tell you your status and if it can be made independent of your husband’s status. They can also tell you what needs to be done if you wish to stay here with your son against your husband’s wishes.

They will tell you if you should consult with an immigration attorney or if there are documents/filings that you can present on your own/son’s behalf.

If you do need an immigration attorney, there are several in Wayne. Find one who will provide a free consultation so you can address all of your concerns. :)

It might help you to have a network of friends. http://www.meetup.com/Desi-Moms-Club/
http://www.meetup.com/bollywood-69/
http://indian.meetup.com/cities/us/08…

Please stay in touch and let us know how it’s going. :)

Thank you for all your help. i think i should probably try to compromise with him until i get my GC. after that i don’t need to get abused by him. but i cannot afford immigration issue at least now. just pray for me that everything should get OK. i can do anything for my kid.i can even stay with him for a year. i will try.

Stay in touch friend.

You are a very strong woman. You will be okay. :)

I understand how much your child means to you. It is the same for any loving mother. Your care will be rewarded.

Please stay in touch, too. If you add me as a ‘friend’ (just click on the little blue man next to my usrname), we can exchange emails if you’d like. Otherwise, just give me a shout whenever you want to say ‘hi’. :)

I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts. Be well. :)