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Do I really have to wear make-up to be pretty?

Let me just go all out, and try to understand. Everywhere I go it seems like everyone is attracted to the people who have an abundance of clothes, and wear make up 24-7. And I mean, I’ve been noticing this over and over that the people who get the most respect are the ones who have the most things. The people that everyone thinks is pretty is the same person with make-up and nice clothes on. Like? Does this mean I have to wear make-up and wear nice clothes, and act like I’m the bomb to actually be the bomb and get some respect? I just don’t get it, I don’t, and that’s not who I am. I don’t care about make-up, doing my hair different everyday. I do care about clothes, but I do the best I can. I’m a natural person, I don’t feel like wearing make-up, and going all out is natural, anyone understand this? Because I feel like if I did that people would just excpect me to be perfect all the time which I’d rather not do. Then again at the same time the only time I get attention or respect is when I look nice. Why? Why? Why?

WHY?!

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love4tacobell offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (4 minutes after post)

No…you don’t have to wear make-up to be pretty. Some girls are hot without makeup :P

Seriously if you don’t want to wear makeup, don’t do it. Nothing is wrong with you if you don’t wear makeup or wear fancy clothes. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, etc, etc, blah blah blah.

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MinnimeChristina offline Verified User (4 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (4 minutes after post)

I don’t wear make-up. Only the smart people are the ones that understand that outer appearances aren’t what matter.

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2 years, 5 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Make-up/clothes does NOT make the person. Just be confident in yourself and smile, that way people will notice you for being a positive person and will want to be around you rather than the “high-maintenance” people. Also, don’t TRY to attract attention, just be yourself & the rest will follow.

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Transition offline Verified User (3 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (5 minutes after post)

I think it makes you look more appealing but it doesn’t necessarily make you more beautiful.

I have a handful of female friends who don’t wear make up, maybe a bit of eye liner or mascara.. i seriously don’t know the difference but anyways, they still look pretty to me. Just be yourself. It also depends on who it is. To me, the less the make up, the prettier you are but there are people that beg to differ.

“Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second rate version of someone else.”

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Let me put it this way, if you need to “do” something to get someone else to like you outside of who you really are, that person is a waste of your time. If you feel more comfortable not wearing make up then just be confident in who you are regardless of what other people “think” you should be doing.
Being true to oneself is the first step towards happiness, the second step is just to believe in what you choose to do with your life.
Agape

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SeesaChic offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (17 minutes after post)

I think it’s more the confidence that these people have with these things that make people attracted to them. Have you ever seen a “popular” person with horribly low self esteem? Well uh, let me rephrase that, they seem to have some kind of appreciation for their looks, right? I’ve noticed that some people who don’t put too much effort in how they look tend to do it out of giving up becuase they feel they can’t look good so why bother? People are also attracted by the fact that you took effort to actually look good, tthat speaks loads about who you are.
Another reason is that people tend to be goldiggers so wherever they can go to benefit more is where they go. “Someone with more money has more fun” is what they’d go by.
I think the most beautiful people are ones that brave the natural, simple look and still have a smile on their face becuase they know that they don’t need all that junk to look good. Make-up is just fun to mess around with. Sometimes it enhances your look but it can be overdone too.

P.S. You are what you say you are. Hahah forget the makeup and clothes, if you think you’re the bomb, others will think you are, and therefore you are.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Hecks to the no, i despise make up and hells fashion that i doubt i make much a statement
but as seesachic saysyou are who you are but people see you sometimes as you portray you.
i despise make up truly i do. idont wear it. and true ppl are attraced to pretty things but why do you think those relation ships dont work? well some of them that is
cause they didnt take take to see beneath the mascara

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SeesaChic offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (34 minutes after post)

Empress chaos wrote:
Hecks to the no, i despise make up and hells fashion that i doubt i make much a statement
but as seesachic saysyou are who you are but people see you sometimes as you portray you.
i despise make up truly i do. idont wear it. and true ppl are attraced to pretty things but why do you think those relation ships dont work? well some of them that is
cause they didnt take take to see beneath the mascara

Mhmm. Look at hollywood couples built on looks. People get divorced every 5 seconds, and these are considered to be the most gorgeous people on earth with all their surgery, lifts, drops, BS.

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Goodfella offline Verified User (6 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (36 minutes after post)

People treat you the way you treat yourself , most people , if you don’t care about the way you look some people think …………..well if she don’t care about herself why should I , if you don’t give yourself selfrespect , most people won’t respect you either , goes for men and women , you have to love yourself to give and receive love .

juli offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (7 months, 1 week after post)

You certainly don’t need make-up to look pretty. There are plenty of girls out there who look beautiful without it. I you don’t feel like putting on make-up then of course don’t do it! I understand that there is a lot of pressure, especially when you’re young but make-up and clothes aren’t everything.

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