My dad hates me.
Seriously he does. One minute hes in a great mood and the next minute hes chasing me upstairs saying he wishes i would bogger off to annoy someone else. My mum says i bring it all on myself. I have thought of killing myself but i dont have the guts. I have thought of running away but where would i go? And thats only my step dad, my real dad doesn’t even want to know me. I am writing this now as i have just been yelled at and told that i wasn’t loved. I think its come to breaking point, what should i do?? Please help me.
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Evi, remember that you are the most important person to love yourself. I can’t speak for your parents, but it has been my experience that most people say alot of things that they don’t mean, especially if there are things going on in their lives (that you may not know about). Also, at 13, you may not understand how your behaviour might be hard to deal with. You are probably moody, sulky, sometime angry. These are all normal for a 13 year old girl to feel. Try to show a friendly face with a smile and a kind word even to people (like your step father) who acts like they hate you. There is an old addage “You draw more flies with honey than with vinager”. Try to be sweet, obedient (appropriately), helpful, and kind with your words and things might get better.
i say the same 2 my kids but i still love them some times its heat of the monent thing
Just try to keep going…
Just shut up, stay out of the house as much as you can, and leave them alone. If you want something suck up first for about 5 minutes.
Dont die yourself.
Just go ahead an kill yourself, that’s what I’m about to do!
this really iritates me because i can not understand how parents who are supposed to provide unconditonal love to their children, act this way… I know because I am almost 30 years old and have gone through this exact situation with my father AND step father…my best advice i can give is keep your head up and when you become an adult do everything you can to turn yourself into a complete opposite person than them, put yourself first and when/if you have kids treat them they wy you wish you were treated. we all have the ability to flip negative energy into positive reinforcement… turn all their hate into motivation to better yourself. good luck!
I feel the same about my father, I think is because I’m gay and men hate gay like my dad.
dont kill your self that whould be a crime
dont kill your self
You are a victim of emotional abuse. Unfortunately it stops there. What I mean is, don’t take the fact that you’re a victim to mean you get a free pass. Nothing will change unless you change it.
You want to kill yourself? No. You just want escape. You want the pain to end. But you can pick up and go anywhere you want. You don’t need money or whatever it is you think is holding you back. There is a whole wide world out there and you can do anything. There is nothing at all chaining you to the place where you live- not age, not money, nothing. What is stopping you from leaving are mental chains, chains that only you have the power to break.
The difference between a successful or happy person and one who gets no where is the level of responsibility one takes for their lives. Sure your parents may hate you- yes actually hate you. People may dismiss it but you know the truth. But are your parents responsible for the decisions you make? Are your parents responsible for where you go or what you want to do? No. Only you are responsible for yourself in the end.
Don’t give up. Get up and go.
You deserve to live a life that is free from emotional abuse.
You may not believe it, but you are worth living for.
So life for yourself. Don’t expect others to live for you.
do we have the same dad ? lol
i know exactly how you feel cuz i feel the same way ..But im so lucky cuz im going away for college…YESSS!!!!!!
Hey, I had the same problem a few years back. You just hang in there :) Someday you’ll rise above this, find a job, move out, find good men, etc. Life will pick up :) Good luck
I really think u should tell sumone , the police? mabye
Do NOT let your dad take over your life. but pleasee dont kill yourself..
i just got into a fight n my dad says he hates me i really wanna no wot i cud do to make him not hate me please help n by the way dont kill yaself there is a hole planet to go to y kill yaself trust me its not as good as u think there is nothing when u die life no matta how bad it is it is worth liveing!!!!
My dad just told me he hates me. I think I hate him too. I ran away and when I came back, nobody even lifted their head. I wanted comfort from my mum, all i got was shouted at. Now I feel alone, angry and sad.
I’m not sure what to do either, but please don’t kill yourself, I thought about it to see if they would actually care, but I wouldn’t know if they did or not, so it’s not a good idea. Besides, we should live for ourselves and not let them influence an unhappy life for us!
At least we’re not alone also, I know when I grown up and have my own children I will treat them so much better than I get treated. So at least they will have nice parents :)
Yeah I will kill my self with my AK-47, let’s die together…
I have the same problem im not sure what to do. i think i just might leave btw im only 12.
my dad’s friend hates me. i am still pouting right now.
Well maybe that you should try and spend some alone time with your real dad and maybe have sleep overs to build a relashonship with him and get know him better not your step dad. If its that bad maybe you should get some professional help,because my dad hates me aswell and my mum is the only one that knowe me because my brothers dont like me becuase i am diffrent, my dad never has any time for me he only has time for my other brothers , it makes me feel as if i am not worth anything.
Dont do anything silly such as killing yourself or hurting your self in any way.
i think you should send a note to him to let him know how you feel ive done that to my father and it felt like he was apologizing to me i always felt like moving into my grandmas house because she care about my feelings but i act like i never want to talk to him to let him know that i am upset im not trying to talk to him but he always talks to me. so thats why you should send him a note to tell him how you feel and why
sucks to be you D:
some dads are complte assholes. I know mine sure is. I wish I had the energy to explain but im sick and tired of letting him affect me this way. It sucks because parents are supposed to be there for their children all the time and love and support them. Im lucky enough to have divorced parents and my mom is amazing. She lives in Regina though and I live in Alberta with my dad. my dad is dellusional cocky arrogant and extremely judgemental. hes an ******* and i doubt if he loves me unconditionally on a daily basis. I dont think he does. I cant wait till th day that I have my own child that me and my future husband can raise into a happily and loving family regardless of the frusterations going on. my dad is a dickhead and im determined to show him one day ow to properly treat your own chhildren. I know we an all do this.
dont kill yourself your worth more than that just keep it cool dont yell at them that willl irtate them so just be as good as you can i know its hard but its the best thing too do right now
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