Love help: omg someone told my bf that i made a fake facebook account to talk to a guy. - Help.com

If he believes some random person over you, then he isn’t worth having!

If you must convince him, tell him the truth and how you feel. Ask who he heard it from, what you supposedly did, and disprove it. Go to his house if you must.

I wish you the best of luck; but if you can’t convince him then he is indeed worthless.

Is this the man you have loved since you were six?

: (

I’m sorry.

nv161 wrote:
yeah it is…

If this has been a long term relationship, then was your relationship recently unstable?

It would have to be a close friend of his to tell him this, or more than one person. DO you know anyone could do this?

nv161 wrote:
for a little bit less then a month its been unstable.

Has there been another reason for this?

I don’t understand why he would believe some idiot instead of the woman he loves. You should be mad at him. Quit trying to call and if he calls you hang up and tell him to pull his head out of his @$$……..

He seems to have lied to you before.

I’m not sure he loves you the way you love him. I’m sorry,

He likes you chasing him. He digs the control. Stop all communication, and see who starts texting who.

Yes you can. If not, enjoy being a puppet.

Maybe he’s just making up an excuse to do what ever he wants

Send him a text saying that you are not going to argue with him about something like this, say that if he chooses to believe something so random like this from someone else and not even be able to talk about it then the relationship is dead.

See what he does.

He is basically punishing you for something you haven’t done.

LazyMcCoolBeans wrote:
Send him a text saying that you are not going to argue with him about something like this, say that if he chooses to believe something so random like this from someone else and not even be able to talk about it then the relationship is dead.

See what he does.

He is basically punishing you for something you haven’t done.

Yup. Basically.

Yes, send him a sympathy card. “So sorry you’ve allowed some random mental midget to interfere in our long-term relationship. I sure hope you are able to forgive yourself soon so that we can talk this out and repair the damages. Oh, and I hope you realize your “friend” is coming between us, and decide soon who is more important to you.”

How could this have been love, if there was no trust? He doesn’t believe you, let him not believe you, move on and have him crawl back to you. It’s stupid that he would believe someone over you, to not even attempt to ask you what’s going on, and to just ignore you.

Did he even ask for proof of what the other person claimed?

Your best option is probably to tell him that you didn’t do this. But if he has such trouble trusting you then your relationship is probably going poorly anyways. Because of him. Genuine people work through problems. Petty people dramatically cut off contact and hurt others because they’re self-focused.

hmm.

My gut reaction here? He’s jealous of your online contacts.. he’s talked about that with someone… and then this whole chinese whispers “drama” has occurred (you know, someone somewhere said “yeah, peaple make fake accounts even…”.. blah blah… and he now believes you are cheating on him.

It’s not so much about whether or not you have some random facebook account as what HE thinks the score is with the other guy(s) you chat to?

Guys don’t handle having other guys competing for your affection very well (no matter how innocent you may think it is) and tend to get all bitter and twisted…

My instinct was that if someone else was involved, they were taking advantage of a problem this guy has that already existed. Whatever speculation I give him though, the fact that he thought there was a problem and wouldn’t work through it–but acts like a child and keeps to himself–makes him lose points in my mind.

I may be misreading previous posts.. but he is a child? ;)

I would tell your bf to stop acting like a jerk, wheres the proof of this facebook account??
If hes ignoring you I would tell him take a hike!

Have you discussed how he feels about your close online friendship with the 16 year old boy? I think this could actually be the root of the problem…

It would be a rare 14 yr old boyfriend who didn’t display some kind of jealousy there!

Actually, after skimming through your previous posts I think he’s just using this as an excuse to break up with you. It’s the easy way out.

You’ve already been acting like you’re breaking up.

I’m sorry, but you will have to move on. : (

These two answers from you.

“i dont care i just want him because he is the only one that i honestly care this much about”.

“i cant do that tho”.

Make it look like you have already decided the answer you want, that being you want some one with a magic wand. To make it all go away.
That is not going to happen though.
I was invited to your post but my answer is in the same vain as the rest up above. So it is no use me giving that advice, as you have already given you reply to the the people above.

I am hoping something good will come out of this, I fear it looks more like a heartbreaking experience for you. This, no matter what happens.

I think you should realy think about the amount of trust you both have in each other at this moment.
Can it be like it was before this happened?

Well honey, he may say he’s ok with the “just friends with the other guy thing” .. but his actions say quite another don’t they?

You need to thrash out WHY he feels insecure enough to be reacting as he did. (Let’s face it, he’s displaying paranoia that you are secretly talking to some other guy.. which other guy??)

I also happen to agree with Araz - this could well be a “not-very-well-thought-out” way of him making a break.

He did try and “take a break” before, right? But (understandably perhaps) you became very distressed by that didn’t you? When a guy is scared you’re going to react by bursting into floods of tears and becoming intensely needy, he’s going to find some other way to make that break… and the easiest would be to do something that makes him seem to “deserve a dumping”.

That way he makes it “his fault” and he hopes that the relationship will then be less “overbearing” because you won’t like him anymore.

Sounds whacky doesn’t it?… but it happens time and time again.

nv161 wrote:
its not secret when 99% of the time that i talk to the guy i have my bf with me and watching because i want him to. and yes i did become that way but i didnt tell him much about it, just at school i was a mess and when ppl would talk to me i wouldnt talk back.

Then why would he be acting this way?

The answer is obvious.

He wants to break up with you.

Mumstheword is nice and said it in a nice way. I’m not that nice.

You need to try to move on because he probably has.

Now whilst this may not directly answer the issue of a facebook account and all those accusations.. I think you need to look long and hard at your own situation/behaviour in this relationship.

From your previous posts, it’s clear to me that you are both young and nowhere near ready to be settling into a permanent love-story. BUT .. and here’s the big but… your behaviour IS overbearing and needy. You need to accept that this boy may not be the soulmate you think he is. He’s not ready to be that.

“i have him for a few more weeks yet hopefully we really havent talked much about it. but i still love him, and im not going to move on because i cant like or love anyone as much as i do him.”

You are suffocating him my dear. Are you sure that when he says he loves you he really means that in a soulmate way? Could it be he’s terrified of letting you down and hurting you and doesn’t dare NOT say those three little words, let alone tell you he doesn’t love you? That he simply doesn’t know WHAT to do to for the best? He’s still a mixed-up boy yet you expect him to behave like a rational adult in a longterm stable relationship. Last time he tried to do what he thought was best and suggested a break.. you wept and howled (understandably, don’t get me wrong)and couldn’t deal with it. In his mind that probably translated as “oh heck, I’m in way over my head here.. how do I deal with this if the “sensible” option was such a massive fail?”

This may be hard to hear hun.

You really DO need to let go and LIVE.

and?

But then you cheated?

And as you say yourself.. he doesn’t think he can get over that.

I think you need to take a reality check hun.

You cannot “wish” things better. They don’t look like they are getting better do they?

The relationship doesn’t work.

I’ll be brutally honest.. it’s not a healthy loving relationship. It’s an obsession, a need, a habit (since you were 6??)

It’s like a zillion other relationships that people go through. Tough to let go of because you don’t know what else is out there and don’t see a future without each other… if you were in your sixties and seventies, then you’d have a major problem on your hands. At 14 and 15.. the best is yet to come and there’s a whole lot of life to be living out there.

I’d say forget the boyfriend/girlfriend/love-of-my-life thing. Love each other as friends.

Friends say they love each other too you know? Maybe that’s all you two guys are REALLY meant to be?