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I need my boyfriend to start growing up.
We’ve been dating since I was 15 and he was 17. Now I’m 22 and he’s 24. When we were young, his boyish charms made me love him so much, and they still do. I am madly in love with him, just as much if not more than seven years ago when we first became an item. But the reality of the situation is that I have a part time job and I’m in graduate school. I have responsibilities six days a week. My boyfriend has only a GED and some miscellaneous college courses that add up to nothing. He hasn’t been in school for three years. He’s only worked for one person in his life; his father. He doesn’t know what he wants to do with himself and at this point I’m fairly sure he’s let it go this far he’s too afraid to decide. He’s a very proud young man, and he should be. He’s an amazing person with a big, generous heart. But if we’re seriously going to grow old together, something has to give. He can’t wake up at 3pm every day and work only three days a week for his dad.
So, my question is, how do I approach the seriously heavy conversation that needs to happen? I’m so afraid I’m going to hurt him. (The truth hurts. I know it’s unavoidable.) But how do I do this gently?
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