Love help: I think my boyfriend is bipolar but not sure.

justlittleme

I think my boyfriend is bipolar but not sure.

Recently over the last few months he has become emotionally abusive, kicking me out for god knows why, accusing me of sneaking men in the house at night,stealing from him, doing drugs behind his back & being sneaky on the computer. None of which are true. I think he is paranoid. He recently threw avacados and bread because I didn’t get the correct one. The last time he kicked me out he told me to take my bags and when I did I was called “really incredible” and he through them out. Hey if you want me out I’ll go……….My sister said he probably wanted me to beg him to stay, I didn’t even think of that. If you tell me your gonna call the cops in 10 min. I’m gone…..He tends to explode and then about 12 hours later (not apologize) but say he thought about things and everything is supposed to be ok. I am not used to yelling or screaming and it’s ok for him to get his frustrations out, but when I try to speak he says, “We’re past that” Well……guess what? I’m not! If I raise my voice I’m not being an adult and if he says something mean and I jab back, then I’m hurtfull and 2 wrongs don’t make a right. Well, the first wrong isn’t right either! After days, I can say something, usually only through texting that will make him feel guilty and he will think about what he did and maybe apologize. I am emotionally exhausted, I thought things would change over time, but it’s only getting worse. I’ve realized it is something bigger then the usual jealous stuff and now I just want to help him. Even if we don’t stay together. I love him sooooo much and don’t want to lose him. He is a wonderful man with a great heart. He’s sexy and fun and just an all around great man until these moods hit. I suggested he go to the Dr. but I have a problem, not him. He is also doing drugs, but decided to go to meetings (Like AA)to get help and to church but by the next couple of days he’s back at it. I don’t know what to do. I haven’t been back since I left one week ago and we have communicated via text and when he’s drunk he wants me back but sober he doesn’t want to talk about it. He doesn’t want to talk to me live. I want him to realize he is not being rational, but I don’t know how to accomplish it. Or it would be best to try to get him to go to the doctor, but I have no idea how I would remotely pull that off. HELP I LOVE HIM SOOOOO MUCH BUT I CAN’T BE SAD ANYMORE!!!!!

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justlittleme 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

I’m recently divorced and unemployed. I can stay with my friends but they have their own lives. He has kids too and I really fell in love with them and want to be there to take the heat off of them. I would love to know how to get him to see the erratic behavior and get him to a doctor. I know people on medicine who are normal with it.

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justlittleme 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 25 minutes after post)

He doesn’t have a problem, I do……….

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Lilly1313 2 #
Saratoga Springs, NY, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 29 minutes after post)

have you ever thought of an intervention ?
If he’s this far out of control, you can’t be the only one
to have noticec his irrationality.
failing that, you may have to practice tough love (ex:loving
someone enough to let them sit in jail overnight instead of bailing
them out). NO ONE DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE THIS!! YOU ARE WORTH SO
MUCH MORE THAN THAT!!If u r the only 1 he treats badly , then he’s
abusive—–run to the nearest exit and don’t look back. But be careful
abusers don’t like it when their victims have the audacity to leave them.

justlittleme 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 36 minutes after post)

His mom see’s it and tries to help by talking to him, but it never seems to sink in. He adores and respects his parents and I talk to his mom but she doesn’t like to hear it. I try to balance the good more than the bad so she doesn’t get defensive. Whether it’s to me or someone else he needs help. He hasn’t hit me. I am working on my issues with this and realize I don’t deserve this and that the longer I stay the more my heart will be broken. It’s hard to leave and stay gone when he turns on the charmer part of his personality.

Lilly1313 2 #
Saratoga Springs, NY, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 39 minutes after post)

sounds like u could use a counselor to help u with all the stress
and emotional turmoil

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justlittleme 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 43 minutes after post)

Actually I spoke to my doctor and he said he could probably use a mood stabilizer and I do need something for counciling but if they don’t know about bipolar it won’t do much good. I just need to somehow get him to the doctor. I’m convinced that if I can do that, it might just be okay

justlittleme 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 44 minutes after post)

I appreciate any help I can get

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justlittleme 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (2 hours, 1 minute after post)

Thanks so much going to bed

Anonymous #
2 years, 10 months ago (6 hours, 51 minutes after post)

Sounds like he’s on Meth.

sziqzi0 8 #
Rome, NY, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (14 hours, 49 minutes after post)

No matter what his mental issues are…what he is doing to you is abuse on many different levels. If he doesn’t seek help… the violence esculates.
I know all too well how this scene goes. I loved him so much, I took the blame for causing him to treat me that way. I thought if I stayed away for even a day, he may find somebody else and I just couldn’t chance that. After several years with him, I finally left. The day I left… I had a broken wrist, a swollen black eye, a busted lip that required stitches, choke marks on my neck, and above all of this… a self esteem that was so low, I didn’t even want to leave my home. It took him a couple of years to get me that low and it will probably take longer to get me back to normal… if that is at all possible.
I look back now and wonder why I wasted so much of my time here on earth, with this man.
You really need to look inside of yourself and ask yourself if this is the way you want to spend the rest of your life? If he really loves you, he will get the help he needs and do it no matter what it takes.
I would also suggest you talk to somebody. If anything to save your self esteem. Best of luck to you.

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justlittleme 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 day, 12 hours after post)

Thank you so much for your research. I appreciate your time and effort. Your thoughts are worth pondering. I didn’t look at it that way.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (2 weeks, 3 days after post)

I hope all this works out for you, but I think you should leave him to make his own choices and protect your own safety. He seems highly manipulative and somewhat antisocial. I think you would do well to get out of the situation and work on moving on to another part of your life wihout him. Focus on you rather than him and his issues. I am dealing with a similar situation and it is much easier and more productive to focus on the things you can control to make your life better. You can’t make him do anything… if he wanted help, he would have gotten it by now.

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Rezq10 0 #
US | 1 year, 10 months ago (11 months, 3 weeks after post)

Wow- this sounds just like my boyfriend. He locks me out for no reason at all, then doesn’t call for days and then things are fine. After a few weeks, the same cycle starts all over again. Reading your post, I felt like I had written it myself. Please email me with any advice you may have.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (1 year, 6 months after post)

I’m going through basically the same thing. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a little over four months and things just keep getting worse. He keeps me from seeing my friends because he’s convinced I’m going to cheat on him and he gets mad when I ask a question about where we’re going or if I take a few minutes longer than him to get ready. No matter what he’s right and I’m wrong, however he always tells me I’m a ***** because “I always have to win.” All I want is to be happy with this guy and not get my head bitten off for breathing into the phone… =\
Is there any way to cope with this?

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neeta05fungir #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 year, 11 months after post)

ur situation is identical to what i am going thru, i am convinced my boyfrined is bipolar and i decided my happiness is more important than going thru his mood swings , which is not my responibility so i will not deal with it anymore.

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angelone100 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (2 years, 2 months after post)

WOW. This is my exact relationship. My one year anniversary was yesterday, but he broke up with me 4 days ago! He breaks up with me ALL THE TIME, but less than 30 mins later he is all “Baby, whats wrong?” ummm hi, were you not in our conversation 30 mins ago?!
I don’t know how to get him to get help. I know he needs it, but he doesn’t see it. He thinks it is “dumb” and a huge blow to his ego/pride.
What do I do?

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 years, 7 months after post)

keep looking girls and run as fast as you can away from these guys cuz thay dont change they just get worse trust me!!!!!!

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carayosh 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 week, 3 days ago (2 years, 9 months after post)

He sounds abusive and on drugs. You can’t get him to change, you’ll have to change yourself. I have been in similar situations; I went to the domestic violence hotline and 12 step programs CoDa and Al Anon. These programs can help you get stronger so you can deal with irrational behavior more sanely.

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