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Okay so like Im 17 and Im really confused.

This passed christmas I was at my friends house for a week and his girlfriend lives with him. And the problem is me and his girlfriend like eachother allloootttt. And they weren’t really together so I asked her if they were together. And she said she didn’t really know. So i took it as a no. So that night I gaver her some of my drawings and her christmas present. And we did all of this while my friend was asleep because he would freak. But anyways before she went to bed I kissed her. So then the days went by until the night before I had to leave. So I was packing and stuff. And my friend said he was going to go into his room to change. And what He actually was doing was snooping through my texts to see what we were talking about. And he saw where we told eachother that we liked eachother and he freaked out. So needless to say our friendship is over but me and the girl still have very very strong feelings towards eachother. But the thing is that my ex best friend has done so much to her. Like he has cheated on her multiple times. And he has lied to her and is just a straight up **** to her. But it seems like she just can’t let him go. And I just want to know if I should have nothing to do with both of them and leave them both behind? or should I try and get the girl that I really want to have a relationship with? I am just so confused on what I want to do or what I should do. Did I do wrong by starting to like her?? I just can’t help not have feelings for this girl cuz she is just so perfect and she makes me really really happy :) but when all this went down my friend called me up saying the only way we can be freinds again is I lose feelings for her and I stop having late night texts with her i just totally stop liking her… but she said she doesn’t want me to lose feelings for her so Im kinda stuck. I just need your guys help!!!! please give me some good answers please!! thank you!! :))

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tigerleaf offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (11 hours, 8 minutes after post)

You can’t help who you like or fall in love with, it just happens. DO NOT let her go! If she makes you happy and you feel you can make her happy then go for it. If you think she still has an attachment to this other guy don’t worry, just talk to her and convince her that your the one for her because all that the other guy has caused her is pain. I know your friends called you up saying that but if he is your true friend he will come though eventually. And they say bros before hoe but if this girl isn’t a hoe then I’d put her first! Go for it, be happy and don’t worry about the little things because they will fall into place. :)

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sleetudieno offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (1 day, 18 hours after post)

Help her realise what a s**t this guy has been to her. She obviously loves you, just tell her your opionion. Whatever you do, don’t let her go.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

Thank you guys so much! I am definately not going to let her go cuz she is just a great person :) But okay another thing happened. My ex best freind went to rehab because i guess he was haing “bad thoughts” and has “bipolar” now. And I think he is trying to make her feel sorry for him and Idk how to make her realize that he is just doing that so she will stay with him. UGH!!! haha But I know im not going to give up on this girl cuz i could see myself falling for her :) but if she does pick him what should I do? tell her to screw off or still be there for her? Thanks for the responses guys!! :D

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