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What should I do?

I was talking to this guy after meeting him a couple of times. We were talkingmostly through texts and emails, because I was out of town. We had plans to hang out and we both said we liked each other. I found out that he’s 5 years younger than me. I’m 24 and he’s only 19. I don’t think I can do it. I told him that it was bothering me but he says that it shouldn’t matter…I can’t help it though, I just feel weird about the whole thing now. How do I let him down nicely?

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emmylou2u offline Verified User (3 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 36 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Tell him that you are sorry but that you can’t get past the age thing and can’t see it being a sustainable relationship, therefore you don’t want to start anything so no-one gets hurt.

My best friend is with a guy who is now 24, she is 35. They met when he was 19 and now have two children and a house together. They are very happy.

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southern_comfort offline Verified User (7 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 37 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Apparently he acted mature enough in your earlier meetings for you to think he was older. He hasn’t changed. Your new perception of him has solely based on a number. That’s really sad.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (12 minutes after post)

why should his age matter when he,s all the man he,s gny be,my fiancee at 24 is 7 yrz younger,dnt b put off by something as silly as that,if u like sum1 then thats a base 2 start on, bt if ur worried about that already then just tel him straight lifes 2 short and ther is sum1 4 every1 out ther,let him find his,b kul bye.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (40 minutes after post)

ugh i don’t know what to do

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emmylou2u offline Verified User (3 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 36 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 5 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

Well, write down some pro’s and con’s. If the only con is his age, and there are lots of pro’s, then think about why his age bothers you. Southern Comfort is right - the only difference between now and earlier is his age. You liked him well enough before!

Oh, and as for my friend, all the girls congratulated her for scoring a younger guy, and all the guys congratulated him for scoring an older woman!

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