friends help: My mom is watching Requiem for a Dream and I’m really upset about it. - Help.com

I can hear the music and it’s killing me!

Well I know she probably doesn’t see it that way, but it’s still a sad movie and it’s still going to make her sad and make her think about all the depressing themes. She watches depressing movies all the time and I don’t care, but this one just really gets to me. I can’t explain it, it doesn’t really make any sense.

metheeme wrote:
Is she aware at all of what is coming in that movie? Have you tried to warn her how really horrible it gets?

Well I saw it when she got it from netflix but all I told her was that it was really depressing and that I didn’t want her to watch it, but I didn’t explain at all. She was only curious about seeing it because it has the same director as Black Swan.

Wylfa wrote:
It is likely that your mother will feel a certain pride in the fact that you are opening up new opportunities by going to college. You can keep in regular phone contact with her from college if that suits you both - it will let her know how valued she is and it will be the living link between you.

Well I’m already in my second year of college, and I have an older sister who’s also out of state. I just don’t like thinking of her being alone and this movie sort of represents the absolute worst case scenario or me abandoning her, even though I know that wouldn’t actually happen.

iam0zy wrote:
if you’re in the same house with her, why don’t you go downstairs and talk to her about it after the movie? i think you could probably learn a lot about each other by talking about a topic you would usually avoid. your mom was your age once too, you know. she probably knows more about real life and suffering than you think.

That’s a good point but I don’t know if I’m up to it. I wouldn’t even know how to start that conversation. She would probably be kind of insulted if I told her the mother in the movie makes me think of her.

Okay, I’ll give it a shot

My mom is so funny sometimes. She said she didn’t find it depressing. She even found it funny when the mother was hallucinating. And she saw the hospitalization/jailing as the characters being “saved from the drugs.” So even though she kinda misinterpreted the movie, I’m happy it didn’t make her sad.

Probably because getting older is making me realize that parents are people too, and I’m slowly getting used to it..