relationship help: At what point in a relationship do you let him see you without makeup? - Help.com

i personally don’t get it, could be that i don’t wear much though so i guess there’s not that big of a difference. seriously though, unless you’re laying it on w/ a spatula, would he even notice? wearing so much on a daily basis can’t be good for you skin, can it?

Well… a kind of guy I think is worth being with is someone who doesn’t care if you just wear sweatpants and a tee, who wouldn’t mind if your hair wasn’t washed more/less than usual, think’s you’re pretty if you wear makeup or not, who really loves you enough to not cheat,

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monkichirmo wrote:
i personally don’t get it, could be that i don’t wear much though so i guess there’s not that big of a difference. seriously though, unless you’re laying it on w/ a spatula, would he even notice? wearing so much on a daily basis can’t be good for you skin, can it?

Haha good point, but I’m definitely not caking it on. I guess a lot of the makeup I wear, he can’t even tell it’s there. It’s just that when I TAKE it off he’ll be able to see. I’m talking concealer. I go out in public sometimes without eye makeup, but never without at least a bit of concealer. I’m really self-conscious about my eyes, and nose… and skin…and this might not make sense but I love him too much? I guess I’m just scared of being rejected, or him thinking I’m not who he thought I was. Ridiculous right? I’ve been with guys before who care so much about looks. I’m scared.

Im sure all guys are different, but my ex said he doesnt even notice..pssh. Anyways, its not like makeup changes the way you look completely. you will still look like you :)

if he’s gonna dump you ’cause of how you look and if you’re willing to pretend you’re someone you’re not then i think your relationship is already doomed…:\

okay i went through the same thing. dont worry about it. one day ur gonna b like i dont feel like wearing makeup and ur not going to wear it bc u feel comforable around him. if u wear a lot of makeup u could try to wear less and less makeup each week. ids start with the foundation. i saved the eye makeup for last bc i loved doing eyemakeup

my girlfriend RARELY wears makeup and shes beautiful. i didnt see her WITH makeup until like a month into the relationship

Hmmm … I do believe it was that first, uh, “intimate” shower that took care of the issue for me. Kinda hard to keep your make-up fresh in a hot, steamy shower … LOL. (Just make sure that you’ve got a limited amount of make-up on when you get into the shower … you don’t want to end up looking like the movie character, “Carrie” - lol.)

Here are some other things I learned:

1) Men love exploring a woman’s face and neck with their lips.
2) As a woman, there’s nothing like having you face and neck explored with kisses.
3) As a rule, men will not do all of that wonderful face and neck exploration if it means they’re gonna end up with a mouthful of foundation, blush, eye shadow, eye liner & mascara.

no guy has ever ‘explored’ my face in any way, shape or form…lol. at least not physically.

Aries wrote:
Hmmm … I do believe it was that first, uh, “intimate” shower that took care of the issue for me. Kinda hard to keep your make-up fresh in a hot, steamy shower … LOL. (Just make sure that you’ve got a limited amount of make-up on when you get into the shower … you don’t want to end up looking like the movie character, “Carrie” - lol.)

Here are some other things I learned:

1) Men love exploring a woman’s face and neck with their lips.
2) As a woman, there’s nothing like having you face and neck explored with kisses.
3) As a rule, men will not do all of that wonderful face and neck exploration if it means they’re gonna end up with a mouthful of foundation, blush, eye shadow, eye liner & mascara.

lulz. thats one of the reasons i stopped wearing makeup

monkichirmo wrote:
no guy has ever ‘explored’ my face in any way, shape or form…lol. at least not physically.

Oh, I am soooooo sorry to hear that … (hugs) … lol.

Abstract?? wrote:
my girlfriend RARELY wears makeup and shes beautiful. i didnt see her WITH makeup until like a month into the relationship

but that’s exactly my problem. if the first time you meet, she’s already wearing the nicest, hours worth of perfection makeup, what do you do? and I don’t feel beautiful without makeup.

I met a girl one time who always used makeup. I decided to go on a surprise visit one day and that time she had nothing on. She looked different but she was still the same girl i liked so i did not mind that at all.

In a close relation you change the view of the other person and the looks don´t really matter that much.
If you change the way you behave you must be more cautious.

My ex-girlfriend was so beautiful. I’m not bragging, she really was. She usually only wore lip-gloss, and that’s about it. On the occasions that she did wear make-up, she still looked breath-taking, but deep down I knew that she didn’t need a stitch of it. I think maybe you should try wearing less make-up. Perhaps just some foundation and a bit of eyeliner? If you keep it to a minumum, the men that you approach (or vice-versa) will have a much better idea of what you actually look like, and will have the chance to appreciate your more natural aura. Try it! :-)

Aries wrote:
Hmmm … I do believe it was that first, uh, “intimate” shower that took care of the issue for me. Kinda hard to keep your make-up fresh in a hot, steamy shower … LOL. (Just make sure that you’ve got a limited amount of make-up on when you get into the shower … you don’t want to end up looking like the movie character, “Carrie” - lol.)

Here are some other things I learned:

1) Men love exploring a woman’s face and neck with their lips.
2) As a woman, there’s nothing like having you face and neck explored with kisses.
3) As a rule, men will not do all of that wonderful face and neck exploration if it means they’re gonna end up with a mouthful of foundation, blush, eye shadow, eye liner & mascara.

Exploring the face and neck with kisses is excellent, and I sure wouldn’t want to if I knew I’d be tasting face paint. Personally I’ve dated few woman who have ever worn full face make-up, and never once did it bother me either way. Now obviously if there are special occasions, wearing make-up makes sense. But to hide your face from the one who loves you, and you him. Well then your not really giving him a proper chance to get to know you.

If he is that special guy, the one that treats you like a woman should be treated and everything that goes with it. He isn’t going to care if your wearing make-up or not. In fact he may appreciate it that you grew to trust him so much as to show your true self to him. In all honesty… Whats the worst that will happen.

you’ve moved in together? do you sleep in the same bed or no? or do you sleep with makeup on? ;)

my bf saw me without makeup quite a deal because we hung out a lot before we dated and i didn’t really care to look made-up when we spent time together. i don’t like not wearing concealer, but every time i put makeup on, my boyfriend hugs me and tells me that i never need it. i tease him and tell him he only thinks that because we’re in love, but i understand that i’m probably a lot more critical of my face than other people actually are.

i’m sure it’s the same for you. wake up. wash your face. pull your hair back and smile. he’ll find you so beautiful.

When a man loves a woman she becomes the most beautiful thing in the world. She moves beyond merely being visualized and becomes something seen with the heart. Your kindness, your humor, your soul all contribute to the vision he sees in you. The way to touch him, the sound of your laughter in his ears and the way your voice caresses his name; all these things he “sees” when he looks at you. The amount of makeup you wear is irrelevant. Trust him to see you from the inside out, not the outside in.