Love help: Why does love hurt?

sziqzi0

Rome, NY, US

Why does love hurt?

…And if we know love hurts, why do we allow ourselves to fall in love in the first place?
I’m just wondering what everybody’s take is on this one. :)

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blurbie 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (6 minutes after post)

interesting question. i guess that if love didn’t hurt, we wouldn’t know when it was good or whe it’s not working out. we let ourselves fall in love because of the feelings we get when we find that one person who makes our world complete. it’s the best feeling in the world.

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candp 41 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Consider a lifetime absent of love. Hmmmmmmmm.

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sziqzi0 8 #
Rome, NY, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (16 minutes after post)

blurbie: Great response! My thoughts are along those lines also.
candp: The would be hard to imagine.

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nibal_a 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

love should hurt in order to feel the the happy side of it, if there is no sadnes there would not be happenes its like a man who was borne rich he would not feel the happenes of this money and a man who is borne poor and lived a sad life he would be more happy with some money more then the rich man. and its like + and - .

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santiago72 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)

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sziqzi0 8 #
Rome, NY, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

Good point nibal-a!
Hi Santiago72.

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alexdnce 2 #
Arlington, VA, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (4 hours, 49 minutes after post)

i think in life love has to hurt because when you find a love that is true and pure how will you truely appreciate its worth and beauty? To feel love we must know pain, or everthing will be a fruitless love, and mundane.

kfgravy 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 hours, 56 minutes after post)

Love is sensitive; that’s why it hurts. That’s why it’s exquisite too. You have to be vulnerable to experience the pain and the pleasure.

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Queen Elizatron 4000 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (12 hours, 3 minutes after post)

I personally am very picky about falling in love. I’ve had crushes that I thought were love but later found out it was pure lust. I’m not sure about true love or love for all that matters. I care less to fall in love because I was hurt from a crush then it will hurt worse if it’s true love. I personally stay away from it. Love is gross and corny and I will never be the fool or be made a fool for falling in love.

Not trying to sound harsh here but love is for suckers.

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sziqzi0 8 #
Rome, NY, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (13 hours, 25 minutes after post)

Queen: What if there was that one chance, that one day a man sweeps you off your feet and rides you off into the sunset? :) I think it would be a little hard to control the feeling of falling in love. Trust me, I have tried.:/

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Queen Elizatron 4000 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (13 hours, 33 minutes after post)

Love is for TV, after he sweeps me off then the problems start and we face flaw. I don’t go there to prevent that part.

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sziqzi0 8 #
Rome, NY, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (13 hours, 34 minutes after post)

LOL! I have been down that road a few times.

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Queen Elizatron 4000 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (13 hours, 37 minutes after post)

See I’m not a fool, I don’t go there. If you don’t start then you don’t have to deal with that. All you have is yourself and personally, most are better off not sharing.

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Queen Elizatron 4000 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (13 hours, 38 minutes after post)

My friend said “I’m to busy loving myself, to share”

I thought that was witty ad rather funny.

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Queen Elizatron 4000 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (13 hours, 40 minutes after post)

You hear all these things about love, right? Most are “I’m in love and it hurts” and most of the love stories are about pain and feeling alone.

What is the point of doing that to yourself?

It’s like paying someone to hunt and kill you. Doesn’t sound to fun.

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sziqzi0 8 #
Rome, NY, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (13 hours, 40 minutes after post)

I like that! Very witty! :)

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kfgravy 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (19 hours, 36 minutes after post)

The queen has lost me. Seems like you’re equating love with pain. Well, sure THIS thread is about that part and not about the greatness of it. Yes, you can have some very low lows with love but you also have high highs that you can’t have without it. And love isn’t just the romance and ga-ga feelings. Those are nice, but hardly compare to when you find someone who knows everything that’s wrong with you and stays by your side anyway. That’s strong.

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sziqzi0 8 #
Rome, NY, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (22 hours, 29 minutes after post)

You are so right kfgravy. And that is probably why I keep falling in love. I am addicted to the high….:)

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xoxo_samantha_bowser 3 #
Saint John, NB, CA | 2 years, 9 months ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

Yes love does hurt and everyone knows that but when you do fall in love you are happeir and you have a person who you can trust and you can give them love and they love you back so in some aspects it’s worth it love can cause pain but it can also cause happeiness

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miszan #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (2 weeks, 6 days after post)

some say that without sadness, we cannot know true happiness. maybe the same is true about love. some say the stronger the feeling of love, the more pain we experience. it’s hard to know why we keep falling into it, but to feel loved is part of the human existence. the pain makes the feeling of love worthwhile. it can make time stop. it can make you forget every other crappy thing going on in your life. but it’s because of that we feel pain when love goes away.
if i ever lose hope in love, it will truly be a sad day indeed.

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Delilah 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (7 months, 1 week after post)

i think that love hurts because when u r in love you trully expose ur self to that person ur naked in a sence so u would be more prone to get hurt that way because u probably never let ur gard down from any one eles (at least not as much) u make ur self vonerable to anything and everything

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venisblac 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 1 week ago (2 years, 3 months after post)

it’s better not to love because one gets hurt and you feel dead inside when this happens over and over so many time so it’s better not to love and become vonerable to someone who doesnt care about .it’s best to protect your heart from all men because all men think with one think and trust me girls it aint with their heads on there shoulders it’s between their legs if you get my point their third leg. they tell you what you want to hear long enough to get down your pants and then they have you and 3 or 4 other women if you allow it.

risabrownsmailbo 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 years, 6 months after post)

true enough!never been in love myself….gues its because i got too many problems of my own,unsolved ones,and being in a relationship would just tangled the whole stuff and wound make my life harder.I ve always wanted to try it out,like falling in love but the moment im close to it,problems start gussing into my brain and heart and im the one who got hurt less than the person i care about and the other person too,cause i find it hard to come to terms or talk to others about my main concerns.I gues no one cud ever understnd so tohell with saying anything…well im just hoping things wud turn out find .aneways…love cud be a good thing,i think,it just feels great to be with some one u loved and have dreams with.

abante0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (2 years, 8 months after post)

true love to me is an unbreakable bond between two people. its real and its unconditional. falling in love is out of your control though -in my opinion. Yes, you can avoid it. but You cant choose who to have feelings for. it sucks..somewhat because many times you fall in love with the wrong person. and thats’s..when it hurts. i think.. You’ll have to go throught it though. experience pain & eventually…in time You’ll think all of that pain will be so worth it. because in the end.. You will find someone who will love and cherish you. Trying to fall out of love is probably the most painful thing to endure but we all who are suffering from a heartbreak will overcome and move on one day. Patience is key : ) as cliche as this sounds.. i believe in true love and i believe there’s someone out there for everyone.

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