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I know it’s long but I need some advice on what to do.

Ok so for the past year I have had my eye on this unbelievable girl that i had only minimal contact with, but out of the blue one day she asks me if i would come out to the bar that night with some mutual friend. While I’m there she takes my phone and programs her number and her and i really hit it off that night and i end up giving her a ride home (nothing more than a ride and conversation) and end up talking to her all night. I end up going out with her 3 more times that same week and have an amazing time. Now the problem I have is this girl is drop dead gorgeous I know there will be times when I hang out other guys would talk to her it comes with the territory, but this guy whom i knew she knew was talking to her and I was trying not to listen in but I over heard him ask why when he asks her to hang out she already has plans, and he even specifically named a small local concert her and I had just been too, and i just couldnt divert my attention anymore and started to listen in. Basically what ended up happening is since i really didnt get to hear anything clearer, i guess i paniced. The guy got up and left and when I got a chance i asked her very calmly what was going on, she assumed i ment with him because she said “He’s nothing to worry about he has been trying to get with me for awhile” and i said “I mean between me and you” I told her “i had alot of fun this past week and i was kind of starting to like her and i was just wondering whats going on” she responded with a big smile “I kinda like you too and I just want to continue to hang out and see where it goes” then she said it felt kind of awkard because of all the people that were around so i offered to go outside with her and she said she would just rather talk about it later, so i dropped and had a good rest of the night. Then 2 days later we go hang out with those mutual friends and i get along with her but maybe only 10% of the attention i had gotten the previous week. Now 3 days after that and i havent talked to her. I know i will see her because i work with her (big retail environment our jobs almost never bring us near each other unless we go out of our way). I just don’t know what I should do i really dont want this situation to end like this. Any advise will be greatly appriciated especially if you took the time to read this entire thing. Thanks

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TheButterfly 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (13 minutes after post)

It seems like she obviously likes you and gets on well with you, she may have felt slightly embarresed about the situation, as you both admitted to liking each other.
Maybee ask if she wants to go out again..
or maybee send her a casual text…
its only been 3 days, I wouldnt worry too much :)
if its only been 3 days, she might be thinking the same thing as you, send her a text and see what happens..

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It seems like she obviously likes you and gets on well with you, she may have felt slightly embarresed about the situation, as you both admitted to liking each other. Maybee ask if she wants to go out again.. or maybee send her a casual text... its only been 3 days, I wouldnt worry too much :) if its only been 3 days, she might be thinking the same thing as you, send her a text and see what happens..

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HateLoveHateXx 13 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (2 hours, 3 minutes after post)

I don’t want to scare you or anything, but in my experience, if you stop talking to someone while the relationship is still just starting to form, it ends right there. You’ve got to make the first move. You’re a guy, she’s expecting you to. If you don’t soon enough, she’ll get mad and won’t want to talk to you the next time you try. Text her, call her, go find her at work, do whatever you want. Just do it now:)

I don't want to scare you or anything, but in my experience, if you stop talking to someone while the relationship is still just starting to form, it ends right there. You've got to make the first move. You're a guy, she's expecting you to. If you don't soon enough, she'll get mad and won't want to talk to you the next time you try. Text her, call her, go find her at work, do whatever you want. Just do it now:)

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Lirou 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (2 hours, 45 minutes after post)

You may have scared her a bit, with the whole “whats going on between us” thing. You two hadn’t been hanging out for very long right? Give her some time, she obviously likes you, but most people know jumping right into an actual relationship is just dumb and its not much fun like that anyway. Just flirt and hang out and enjoy it, your already spending time with her, just appreciate that and be yourself. The fact that your already worried about exactly where things are going may be a bit off-putting to her and a little bit creepy. And most people do not enjoy being controlled, if she feels like your starting to try and control anything, she will run, trust me. Good luck with everything. : )

You may have scared her a bit, with the whole "whats going on between us" thing. You two hadn't been hanging out for very long right? Give her some time, she obviously likes you, but most people know jumping right into an actual relationship is just dumb and its not much fun like that anyway. Just flirt and hang out and enjoy it, your already spending time with her, just appreciate that and be yourself. The fact that your already worried about exactly where things are going may be a bit off-putting to her and a little bit creepy. And most people do not enjoy being controlled, if she feels like your starting to try and control anything, she will run, trust me. Good luck with everything. : )

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