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Loving two people at once?

First off I am a 17 year old girl, a senior in high school, I am bisexual and have a boyfriend. However before I got with my boyfriend, I fell for this girl. I never thought I would fall in love with her but I did. I somewhat gave up on her because she was taken, and I started dating my boyfriend. Recently she broke up with her girlfriend and is single and she told me she has feelings for me. Now I love my boyfriend, but I love her too…a lot. I don’t know what to do. I have to decide between my boyfriend who is also my best friend, and a girl I’ve been in love with for 4 months now. Please help…

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2 years, 3 months ago (5 minutes after post)

I think you should be with the boyfriend. He was there for you and your relationship with him is still good, why ruin that for something that may or may not work out?

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2 years, 3 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Well that’s the thing…I’m always thinking about her and I know it would work out. She’s always on my mind no matter how hard I try to not think about her. And now I’m just not sure I’ll be happy with my boyfriend when she’s all I think about.

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2 years, 3 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Oh okay if thats the case, if you are confident it would work out with the girl then give it a try. In the process keep in mind you would be hurting your boyfriend but thats not a good enough reason to stay with him if you were just considering his feelings. It is a risk but if you think it is worth it i think you should go for the girl. It wouldnt be fair to you or the boyfriend if you were with him but were in love with someone else.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (17 hours, 48 minutes after post)

The heart is very large organ. There is a place for many people in it. The thing is to separate what’s real and what is in your head and answer to your self who do you want to spend your life with.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (1 day, 20 hours after post)

Awh. thats cute im bisexual to! well first thing he is you best friend ( as you stated) and why go out with someone that will always be there for you when you break up with him. but if you are thinking about this girl 24/7 i think you should go with her. i mean you never know what might happen . (: and maybe tell your boyfiriend that you need some space he will understand (:

Good luck! (:

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (2 days, 6 hours after post)

what is your name

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years ago (3 months, 3 weeks after post)

lol ! why cant u be with both?? if u r forced to be only with one of them, choose the one who u love more … n think about it a lot to make a good decision!
good luck !

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (9 months, 1 week after post)

Thats right why can’t you be with both??. The last I read you are 17 you are so….lucky, any who..take your time enjoy life cause it is so short!! im sure you will have so many more friends you love before the right one comes a long. I wish you all the happiness in the world.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 year after post)

Date them both if your boyfriend doesn’t like it then really he is a loser I would actually choose the girl but that’s me not you just choose who you want to be with if it is him that’s great if it is her that’s also great….

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