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a donut (or other tasty treat) on the end of a stick in front of your nose.
What is your issue here? Are you preoccupied with your thoughts of work, relationships, etc.? Are you unhappy with your appearance? Why do you want to change your habits?
Yes, there is. You need break the enormous task of changing your habits, and being able to sustain them over time, into manageable chunks. Getting up and out of the house is an absolute must. If you have a stop watch or some such application on your phone, prescribe yourself an hour out of the house each day. Go for a walk, wander through the mall, etc. You are not doing anything wrong. You have the motivation, but if body image or physical fitness is a factor here, get moving for the right reasons. Know that you are a great person, and that you are doing what is right for you because you need to.
I used to feel like a rather lazy person, but as soon as graduate school was over, I gave myself a list of small victories to achieve each day. Over time, the victories became increasingly harder to achieve, and I was able to rise to the challenges each time because I prepared myself properly. Become a fan of making lists, keeping date books, using dry-erase boards.
Even as we grow older, we require positive reinforcement to provide validation and encouragement. The best thing to do for yourself, is to condition yourself to look to you for this first. You do this by accomplishing those small victories I mentioned before.
Diet: Eat several smaller meals throughout the day. Do not try to eliminate the garbage from your diet. It tastes good, and that’s okay, if you do it in moderation. I’m not sure what type of food you eat, but I would be willing to share my modified meal plan with you.
Exercise: One of the best ways to get control over your physical fitness and weight is to discover the ways in which you like to move. If you like to walk, then do that. If you enjoy riding a bicycle, then ride on! If a gym is an option for you, don’t get bored. You need to target several muscle groups in one session. Gyms can be boring if you just focus on doing one machine for an hour. Use a few machines 10-20 minutes each for each visit. You need to target fat, boost your VO2 max and train your heart to kick butt when it’s under stress. The best way to do this is to stay at the lower end of your fat burning zone (around 130 bpm). Get a heart-rate monitor that tracks calories burned. Record this.
Record calories. Record food. Keep a log. Each time you get to sit down and enter this information, know that you did good today and have achieved victory. I am really lumping a lot together here, but I’m training for two dozen mountain bike races and Ironman. I realized one day that I was not living up to my full potential, and I power through it even if I feel like crap or have no energy on a given day. You can do it! Anyone can!
1st of all - quit calling yourself lazy - the negative connotation of that word tells me you feel bad about yourself and that is where i would start.
there is some very good advice here. the one about breaking things down into smaller tasks is great.
i find if i set one very reasonable goal and then do it i get the good feelings of accomplishing that goal.
to start the goal may be to get the dishes done or if that is too daunting try just getting up and walking from one end of the room to the other and back 5 or ten times.
i used to be incredibly disorganized… ok … i used to sweep and take out the trash once every few months - and that was the trash off the floor : p
but i read to start with one place, which for me was my kitchen sink - and make it nice for yourself and then keep it that way. So i did all the dishes and then i wiped out the sink and i set it up with nice dish soap and clean sponges and towels for drying dishes and eventually i got a decent dish drainer and i really worked at keeping it nice and I did it! The next place i worked on was my bed, every day i got up and i made my bed… ok - almost every day.
The key here is to move forward - even a tiny bit - and THAT WILL GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT!!! : ) : ) : ) and THAT will help you move a little more forward… one foot in front of the other… one step at a time.
It has been a few years since i started on my journey. I could not do it all at once, or even a lot at a time. But I am doing it now. And if i slip back a bit I just get up, brush myself off and go forward again.
SO pick one thing you want to get a handle on.
As for your weight issue, I am not sure what you are already doing right - maybe a lot, but nothing. If you think you have a few things right, try making a list of what those are so you can see that you are doing some good things. If you cannot write anything down because you have not been able to start doing anything to help yourself I recommend starting with this… when you get up drink 2 glasses of water. When you sleep you get dehydrated!!! If you are dehydrated by even 2% your brain and your body become sluggish and it makes you very tired. Then through out the day continue to drink a glass of water at least every 2-3 hours - and best to do just before you eat. If you like ice water that is even better : )
The water thing really helps me A LOT.
Good job reaching out to us. That you are thinking about this means you are not lazy - you are just struggling with some very difficult issues and you can get better, but be good to yourself and trust that even though it WILL take some TIME that if you take small steps you WILL reach the place you want to arrive!!!!
It helps me to do a meditation every day. I can get very inactive too but less when i do one. Also taking a walk helps mentally.
lose some weight, youll have more energy.
thanks okei for posting — i need this info too. so thanx for all helpful responses — i am struggling, but i will get out of this — i did get out of my rut yesterday, and i’m going out today — i refuse to hide myself from the world — i deserve and can do better
there’s a lot of whole world to see. start living.
I recently put together a neat article on this topic on my website.
a href=”http://www.shapeupamerica.com/2011/03/eight-habits-to-help-cure-lazine ss/”> eight habits to help cure laziness /a>
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