boyfriend help: I’m afraid to have an orgasm.

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I’m afraid to have an orgasm.

I know that sounds crazy but I really am. like, when I get close I push my boyfriend away from me and tell him to stop. we don’t have sex, just like fingering and oral, that kind of stuff. I don’t masturbatre and have read that that would help but I reall can’t, like, I think it’s disgusting, no offense to anyone, for me to touch myself, i just can’t stand it. I’m so weird and I dont get why. My boyfriend is so frustrated because I push him away. I feel so close and all of a sudden I get sooooo scared. how can I fix this?

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fractal.scatter 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (21 minutes after post)

Don’t be. They’re great.

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Grim_Hardcastle 31 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (23 minutes after post)

You just have to be ready for it.
I bet you that if you just do it once you will want to repeat.

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SoulSurviver 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (33 minutes after post)

Seriously … I’ve had post moved from the first page because I’ve used one … 1 … curse word but this post is alright even though it is sexually explicit.

I just had to put that out there. (sorry to the poster)

Anyways, Is there a reason why you are scared? … I mean do you feel that what you are doing is wrong or are you ashamed or anything like that? If you can find the reasons behind your feeling it will probably be easier to get over your fear … or you can just do what Grim_Hardcastle said try it once and that will possibly get you over your fear :) good luck.

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Dr. Ralph 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (34 minutes after post)

Get a buzz. Quit being so nervous.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (43 minutes after post)

Docteur Ralph wrote:
Get a buzz. Quit being so nervous.

um yea i wouldnt say that but lol being i once had one awsome sexual experience that omg when i had just a few drinks not many i mean he was amazing omg he was sober might i add lol

But just cool down and let it happen and feel instead of think trust me, feel his hands think about what you are feeling
dont think of pushing him off cause that will be a very bad turn off for him and he will end up being very frustrated in the end.

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Dr. Ozy 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (4 hours, 37 minutes after post)

why are you so afraid of your own body? i think that once you become comfortable with your body and realize how beautiful it is, you will have no qualms about giving yourself pleasure. there is nothing wrong with you and every inch of you is beautiful. i think once you become comfortable with touching yourself down there, you will become comfortable with your boyfriend doing the same.

how old are you? you don’t have to rush it.

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