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Sounds like your father’s alcoholism is placing everyone under so much stress that it is effecting your health. Start with helping dad get help if he is ready. Do a family interventiion if necessary. This would be a good place to start.

I think the fact that you are on here helping other people with their problems suggests that you’re a good person who wants to help - but this can be its own curse too.
It sounds as though you’re doing as much as is reasonably possible but sometimes I think you just have to recognise that doing more would be akin to martyring yourself. The most important thing for you is you. There’s no point beating yourself up over your family - sometimes all you can do is pick the pieces up when they need picking up.

Essentially I think I’m saying that you have to look after yourself sometimes, which is harder to do, but essential in the long run if you’re going to be there when you’re really needed.

Support, listen, be there for the emergencies. Your health is the most important thing, cos if you’re ill you can’t help anyone else.

I thought my problems were bad, but gosh, Im sorry you have to go through this. Talk to your family doctor about it. That always gets me on the right track.

Thehappycanuc, some of the family problems like your pregnant sister who lives far away, at her own choosing we presume? Call her or write to her, let her know you love her and offer her a listening ear or shoulder to cry on, perhaps just share her excitement about her coming birth. Your grandparent, same thing, visits to the hospital or their home, let them know you love them, call when you can. Your dads’ physical and mental symptoms are a part of the alcoholism. Have you and your family been to Alonon meetings? Have you read books on alcoholism and codependency? The sister with the possible cancer, are we talking possibilities or probabilities? To launch into a cancer journey before it is necessary is not a good thing. Way too much stress, especially when it turns out unwarranted. You get to the doctor and tell them what you have been experiencing symptom and stress wise and get treatment.

We know it’s hard but try to stay focused on you. Life happens. If there is something you can do, wonderful. If there is nothing you can do, accept it. In your future line of work that piece of wisdom will come in very handy, we think. What do you do with the kids?

No,no. The volunteer work with the kids. LOL

super. we commend you. Hey, can you help anonymous, the second year med student. What do you think?

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Anyway, I think I wrote a lot, so I will just send it without checking for spelling mistakes. I hope this info helped and I wish you luck in your medical career.