I cheated on my boyfriend by having sex with another
man, Im very regret and I text him to tell what I have done like 2 3hour after that bad thing happened. He was very mad and said “My heart is died. Wow. I have nothing to talk to you” :(
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Well, you did the right thing by confessing, but he’s going to be hurt. Give him time, and see if he can come to terms with it. If not, then you have to respect his wishes. If he does then you better show him how sorry you are, and make sure it never happens again.
Hey friend first you should not have cheated on him. And now when you done that why did you told him. Use your mind.
Well what’s done is done. You had balls to tell him that you cheated on him hours after, most people couldn’t do that. Your conscious is clear but you should learn from this.. instead of cheating on somebody, try and solve your problems first and breakup if that’s the best option, rather than cheat. Cheating on somebody is a horrible thing to do, but don’t beat yourself up. Learn from it.
I respect you for telling him straight. But you have to deal with the consequences of your actions. Don’t think all will be solved in few days. In fact I think you lost him. You cheated on him, that means you don’t really love him. Better to break up in stead of cheating.
your best bet is to have no expectation of forgiveness.
it could happen, but it is unlikely.
if it is going to happen - you will have to give him time.
you can send him BRIEF emails (not intrusive texts) and continue to tell him how sorry you are and what a bad mistake you made… and let him know that whatever he decides about you - you will understand - but that you hope, at least someday he can at least forgive you - even if he does not want to be with you any more.
love takes sacrifice and sometimes we need to help the person we love feel better with NO issues about what WE WANT.
YOU are the the one who violated HIS trust. I know it is harsh - but you do NOT deserve forgiveness… FORGIVENESS is an undeserved understanding someone else offers to you… it can also be called grace.
EVEN IF he forgives you - he may not want to be with you anymore.
I am sorry to say all this - but the ONLY chance you have of ever working this out is by biting the bullet and accepting that it most likely won’t work out.
DO NOT be pushy… but small gestures of sorrow and regret/ repentance - will keep reminding him you DO CARE and make sure to tell him that whatever he decides - you will respect.
and try not to be too hard on yourself… we all make mistakes we later regret… the important thing now is how you handle this. please be strong. better late than never : )
I cheated on my boyfriend by having sex with another man, Im very regret and I text him to tell what I have done like 2 3hour after that bad thing happened. He was very mad and said “My heart is died. Wow. I have nothing to talk to you” :(
thanks all you guys for the reply. i want to know if you guys are getting my post fully bcos form my laptop, i just can see a part of it. this is my full post
“I cheated on my boyfriend by having sex with another man, Im very regret and I text him to tell what I have done like 2 3hour after that bad thing happened. He was very mad and said “My heart is died. Wow. I have nothing to talk to you” :( /3 I just want to confess, he was cheated on me on the past and not just cheated but he had done sth make me feel very bad but I have been always there forgive him. But now for the very first time I made mistake, he’s talking that way, I dont know what to do now… Idk is it over btw us? :(
P/S: Im not sure what kind of relationship me and my bf having, we are in long distance apart, we stopped talking for like 3 mths already, and just the day before that bad thing happened, we talked to each other bcos he miss me and we still always there for each other but we can do nothing bcos we are like 20,000k away…. What Iam saying is Im trying to make thing better but just for one minute I didnt keep myself out of that stuupid sex thing, I will like lose him for good. Pls help me! :(”
Most likely you HAVE lost him for good. For a man, his wife or girlfriend having sex with another man is the ultimate rejection, the ultimate betrayal. And stupidly, you told him about it . . . to unburden your own conscience, you broke his heart.
Never again unburden your conscience at someone else’s expense!
You need to figure out why you cheated. Maybe you cannot handle a long-distance relationship. Maybe your feelings for your boyfriend waned. Maybe you were never deeply in love with him–your actions show that the “pleasure of the moment” outweighted everything else.
If I were in his shoes, I would not be able to deal with what happened, and I’d just want to put you out of my mind.
I have been cheated on before and it hurts. Maybe you should re-think why you did it? It was the right thing to tell him because you can’t live with lies and a relationship must be based on trust and the truth or else it is going to fail in the long run. If I were you I would just make sure your apology was sincere and let him decide what happens next. Hopefully you will learn from this and never let it happen again.
For the average guy, it will take much more than an apology to wipe the image from his mind of your having sex with another man.
The minimum requirement here would be for you to return home and apologize in person.
You cannot “text” an apology for cheating. Or do it over the phone.
For 99.999999999% of guys, however, you would already be history.
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