Situation help: I seem to be having some sort of emotional breakdown. - Help.com

This article seems pleasant, if you want reading material while you are sitting here in the lobby waiting for the counselor. :)
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/menta…

Kalen, life is hard; nobody ever gave us an owner’s manual or a map, and all but the most fortunate of us live out in the fog with no sure compass. It’s frightening, difficult and maddening.

You’re far from alone.

Most people find solace or comfort in things they believe is a fixed point in an uncertain world - religion, money, love - and others become lost in that fog and never seem to find their way. They fall to drugs, alcohol, despair or bitterness.

There’s a secret for you, Kalen - there is no true, single path through life. Nearly everyone finds their own, and when friends stumble, they offer the only solution they have - the one they forged for themselves.

You need to find your way. And there is - especially in the 21st Century - no stigma in taking up some counselling. They don’t tell you what to do; they are there for you to talk to, let you bring all the garbage out of your system and sort it out. Ultimately, even with a counselor, your decisions are your own; they just hold the light for you, while you work out the map. It’s a good way.

Sorry to hear you are going through such a rough time. I do think that if you are having suicidal thoughts and feel it is necessary, that a counselor is advisable. People don’t need to know that which you don’t tell them. But I have been in therapy for several years and it looks like I may be getting discharged this month because both my counselor and I feel that I no longer require it. I hope you start feeling better soon, though. Shout me anytime.

I think everyone of those replys have got valuable imput.
Sounds like, the only way you are going to move forward in life is to get some professional help.
If I can be of any more assistance dont hesitate to shout me.
I hope you feel better soon babe.

Kalen, see a counselor. There is no shame in it. I would say that a large percentage of us here, especially the older ones, have been through counseling and found it valuable. There is no lasting stigma from it. It’s almost a rite of passage in this age, showing that you realize that all the answers can’t be found in yourself or your peers. Ultimately the answers are within, but having a professional guide to help you find them is a good thing, not something negative.

That fractured, insane feeling you are experiencing is a defense mechanism, a warning signal, just like our sense of touch warns us of not touching something hot. Your self will not be shattered. You are not insane. Sanity is not a toggle switch that points up or down, it’s part of our overall health.

And I agree with Dixie that you are a thoughtful, caring person. I’m glad you are here, and I believe you’ll find your way through this time.

NotJustWhistlinDIXIE wrote:

Sans wrote:
And I agree with Dixie that you are a thoughtful, caring person. I’m glad you are here, and I believe you’ll find your way through this time.

Yay! The “old wise one” agrees with me. :o) …hehehe
Of course, he would be just a silly man if he didn’t, cuz well, of course it is true.

Who you callin’ old?!

Kalen, see a counsellor if you feel that would help you sort things out and understand yourself and your life better. There is NOTHING wrong with it. A lot of people have gone through that. It’s what they needed. And it is honorable of them to be responsible enough to do what is necessary to help them through some rough time in their life. Counsellors are trained to understand you better than anyone else.

I hope you feel better soon. But please don’t let anything come between you and your well-being. Forget the pride or worry of what anyone would think of you for needing this extra support. People who judge those who seek this kind of help are very often those who are in denial of needing it themselves.

All I care about here is that you do what you need to do to sort things out in your heart and mind… for you to feel better with yourself. Give yourself what you need, sweet friend. X

First of all, well done for clicking the send button instead of erasing it. The first step to dealing with things seems to be acknowledging them and being able to talk about them. Which is why abuse is so damaging, it isolates people.
It’s very likely you’ve been judged a lot in your life, and when you finally got away from those who would judge you, you judge yourself now. It’s quite possible for you to be able to stop doing so.
You are the person who has to live with your mistakes, not others. You are the one who gets the majority of your successes, not others. And you understand yourself better than others do. Out of each person on the planet, you are a better judge of yourself than anyone else.
Failures are a natural part of life. I’ve learned more from my failures than my successes, and I believe it’s similar for most people. It’s impossible to succeed all the time, and as long as people continue to receive feedback from what they do, they learn and do better.
“I’d rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not.” - Kurt Cobain.

U know the only person who is REALLY judging you is you! Anyone else who does are superficial jerks!

it’s kind of funny, but people are really more concerned wiith whats going on in their own lives.. i’m not sayign that people don’t care about you, because they do. i just mewn tha most people are too caught up in their own issues to really judge others.. it’s kinda nice to know that human beings are so inherently selfish when it comes to matters of life that they can just completley forget there are others out there, feeling jjust as lost and alone. i take solace in this fact. noone has a goddamn clue what’s going on. so instead of getting all panicy and sad about it, i’m trying to retrain my brain into loving that fact. and to try anbd erase the stigma around “sucess” because all sucess is, is living life and being happy.

Try to do things that you are good at that make a difference. This will give you a sense of worth. For example, you can make a website promoting eco-friendliness, you can babysit for some little kid in your neighbourhood, or you can fundraise for your local humane society. These things might make you start to love yourself and the world more.
Sure, go see a counselor if it helps. They’re always better than hospitals because they don’t tell you what to do. It’s really up to you. I hope that helps, and good luck!