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KaySunshine offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

I am 18. So it would be my responsibility to pay for it. I didnt want them to pay for it that is why I was waiting to tell them until I got the money for it.

madashec wrote:
You should have told them.

When it comes to financial liabilities, most parents are responsible for their underage children. Had you decided to say “screw it, I’m not paying for it” and had you not told them, the ticket would have become more than what it actually is and then their financial liability would have been a lot more.

As long as your under age and you live under your parents auspices, they are responsible for you, depending on the state.

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (9 hours, 7 minutes after post)

Oh, you see, it’s not a tragedy, I would say to my daughter. It’s only a pity for the money …
We all make mistakes.
Forget it!
:-)

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dinezero offline Verified User (3 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 day, 2 hours after post)

Forgeddabout it!

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KaySunshine offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 day, 2 hours after post)

Yea, I am over it. I was just wondering if all parents would react this way.. Just trying to understand how parents think.

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Jameer offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (1 day, 3 hours after post)

I think there was lack understanding between you and your parents, if not they wouldn’t have said you were sneaking around.

The important thing here is, try to build that trust between you and your parents so that if a similar situation occurs, they will understand and have a adequate trust on you.

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2 years, 2 months ago (1 day, 15 hours after post)

If you do not live with them I would say they are overreacting. They do not always see you every day and things like this might not be mentioned.

If you do live with them I can understand why they might be upset. Here is how I would think about this as a parent (just my feelings if it were me, does not mean I am in any way right):

-Why wouldn’t you have told them? Jay walking is a ridiculous offense and $64 is a lot for something so petty. I know personally I would be complaining to anyone I thought would be sympathetic.
-Which makes me think you were trying to hide it because you didn’t think they would be sympathetic. You wanted to get the money first so they would be less mad.
-I would be frustrated because I would feel like I was told about it at the last minute. Since you would have to tell them anyway eventually, I would have preferred if it was at the beginning without money (but told that their was a plan to get the money) than later even with money. I would feel like you didn’t trust me to tell me about it. It would make me wonder what else you are hiding.

That’s just how I imagine I would feel if I was in your parent’s shoes. My kids are pretty young, but it seems like it would be hard to watch them morph into adults and would lead to some scuffles. I really don’t think it was a big deal, but I would probable get upset about it because it would hurt my feelings a bit.

Honestly though, jaywalking is a really unfair thing to get a ticket for. I’m sorry for your bad luck on that.

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jason_hanterma offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (5 days, 23 hours after post)

i would tell them you were just taking responsability for my mistake. and leave it at that.

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jason_hanterma offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (5 days, 23 hours after post)

parents alway think there kids are up to no good.

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KaySunshine edited this post 2 years, 2 months ago. Read the previous text »

A question for parents.
Okay, so I got a jaywalking ticket. I live with my mom and step dad. When I got it I did not tell them about it, because I did not want them to stress over the $64. I was not intending to keep it from them forever, I was going to tell them when I had the money gathered for it so I could pay for it myself and they wouldnt have to worry about any of the money. I got the ticket in the mail. Well just a reminder that I had to pay, cause I got the ticket on the spot. So tehy found out before I got the money and they are really pi$$ed off at me because I didnt tell them right away. I was not trying to be sneaky.. I explained that to them. They think that I didnt trust them since I didnt tell them adn that I was trying to be sneaky. I was explaining that wasnt the case.. That I wanted to get the money and then give them the ticket and have them mail it out for me.
I wasnt trying to sneak around it or not let them know. Its only jaywalking… it was all just about the money that is why I was holding off on telling them.
So if you are a parent reading this… how would you react? I see where they think that I was being sneaky.. but if I explained to you my thought process on why I was waiting to tell would you still be really angry? That was not my intentions -_-

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